Why doesn't anyone discipline their children anymore? Hasn't anyone noticed that back when it was "ok" to spank a child's behind, there weren't near as many kids running around acting like spoiled brats? Psychologists say that the "reasoning" part of the brain doen't develop until around the mid-twenties, yet these same Drs want you to try and reason with a child who is misbehaving.
And don't waste your time calling me a child abuser just because I believe in spankings. There is a HUGE difference in spanking a child and abusing a child.
Also, yes, I am the father of two children who receive spankings when they misbehave, and they are very normal, outgoing, and respectful kids.
2006-07-09 15:51:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My favorite (being facetious here) is when parents simply ignore their misbehaving children. Or when the kid sits there and says mom 20 times at the top of their lungs. Good for you for sticking to your beliefs and actually RAISING your children. I think that's one of the biggest problems today. Parents have their kids in 8000 activities or stick them in front of the TV or a video game. There is not enough child rearing and home education not home schooling, teaching your children life and social skills at home. As far as spanking your child? I was, my husband was, actually where he's from they use a switch, and we are both well-adjusted adults who are successful or on our way to being so. Again, good for you for teaching your children to be respectful. (APPLAUSE)
2006-07-09 16:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by scoutie 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right, there is a difference in spanking and abusing. I chose not to spank my children, excepting rare instances. I opted for other things that hurt them worse, like taking away the Nintendo or their bikes. It all depends on the person and the child. Some children need physical punishment, others don't. I know of kids that got spanked who are in prison and those who didn't who are in prison. Depends on how you raise them and you sound like you're doing a good job.
2006-07-09 15:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A big part of the problem is Children Service agencies that use scare tactics to keep people from hurting their kids. While that may be a good to prevent abuse, a lot of parents are afraid of having their kids taken away.
To make matters worse, kids these days threaten and actually do call Children Services on their parents when the parent is actually just performing what should be acceptable discipline. Then the parent gets dragged through a bunch of red tape and crap and is afraid to do anything else.
My daughter called the police on me once for smacking her butt... The officer listened to both sides and then told her that she was lucky she was mine and not his because she would have had a lot more trouble. He told her to shut up, sit down, and quit giving me a reason to punish her. (It helped!)
2006-07-09 15:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe in spankings as well, however usually as a last resort. being a parent is about being creative in the disciplining department. there is no punishment in our house. it is disciplining. and you are so right there are alot of spoiled little brats out there that have no respect for anyone cause mommy and daddy work out of the home and are never there. kids have way to many privileges nowadays. i also have very well mannered children(most of the time) and get along just fine. we want them to become successful adults and give something to the world! it is hard work being a parent i will give you that!
2006-07-09 16:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Luvbuz01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the world is going crazy. how is it that we allow the government to tell us how to raise our children? spankings are a part of growing up. what does a child learn by being made to stand in the corner. humiliation ? children need to respect something or someone growing up and if they don't respect their parents then who will they respect? the government worker that comes to take them to a foster home? the gov. uses to many scare tactics to keep social service workers working and to keep all children from learning to respect, because parent are afraid of disciplining their kids. if my children ever call the police on me for a spanking that they got for something they did. the cops better be here real fast, because then they get a spanking for calling the cops.
2006-07-09 16:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself believe in spankings too and would love to see more of this going around instead of kids being disrespectful all the time to everyone.
2006-07-09 15:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by James B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, people watch to much television and think that they cant spank there child without getting their children taken away.
2006-07-09 15:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had the answer to your question...i just think some people REALLY have no idea how to raise kids...when my girls were young and we were out--if they acted up--all i had to do was LOOK at them...they stopped what they were doing..cuz they knew i meant buisness..i never beat my kids..but i never let them disrespect me or anyone else.....kids now...they curse at thier parents and hit them...what is that?? they talk to thier parents any kind of way..people should take parenting classes to have kids.....
2006-07-09 16:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Katfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in education and I wish more people felt the same. It never hurt me any...as long as it's done for the right reasons in a reasonable manner. Anger is not a reason...but I agree with you.
2006-07-09 15:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by jake78745 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋