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Ever time I try to tell someone he makes me lie. Idk what to do anymore. I've thought about suicide but I cant do that yet
I neeed someone to talk to that I can trust

2006-07-09 15:49:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Mental Health

26 answers

I have no idea how I found this site. If you believe in God then maybe he sent me to send this message. I don't know how abusive your father is, but I grew up with two abusive parents, and am now almost 30. It has effected a lot of aspects in my life.

Anyways, My advice is to please talk to some one. A teacer. Teacher's are required to report this stuff if they know about it. Let a teacher know then can help you. You need to get out of this situation. I'm not sure how old you are (not that this matters) If you don't have teachers than call a hotline. Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD
(1-800-422-4453)
The worst thing you can do is nothing. God bless you!

Josh

2006-07-09 15:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If you are fearing for your life and health you've got to tell someone. I recommend calling one of the local help-lines (check out the Human Services/Organizations section of the phone book), your doctor, school counselor. Look for signs that say 'Safe Space', usually at the Police station, Fire Department or Health and Human Services agency (United Way, Boys and Girls club, etc.) and, if you feel you must - go there! Be prepared - you WILL be removed from your home and placed in temporary foster care while social workers do an investigation on your dad. You may or may not, based on their findings, be able to return home. Verbal abuse is still abuse, and though harder to prove, will still involve the local social service agency. In the event that you don't have the opportunity, or access, to use the phone or cannot get to a Safe Space - stop a stranger on the street, preferably someone who looks like a mother, and ask, beg, plead for their help. If you truly believe that your are in danger, and value your life and well-being, you will do something about it. You have to make the move - this was a good start.

2006-07-09 23:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by tankboy444 3 · 0 0

He can not be looking over your shoulder 24/7. Tell a trusted adult when he is not around. I know school is out for the summer so a school counselor is not really an immediate option. Tell the parent of a friend, the police, call a hotline, talk to a neighbor, call children's services from a pay phone or a friends house if necessary. But you HAVE to tell someone. These situations only get worse when left unreported.

2006-07-10 00:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by geni 3 · 0 0

You really need to tell someone about whats going on inside you and your parents home. I believe you should tell someone that's really close to you like an friend,teacher,or other family you can trust. Even if you have to walk or catch a bus to the police do so. I don't know you but I feel no one should have to go through any kind of abuse. If you can tell your friends parents, sometimes that works when you get other parents invited. You pray and every thing will be alright. Stay strong and don't be thinking about ending your life, cause we all have a purpose and am sure you too young to have completed your life goal yet, so stay strong and thing will get better, GO TO THE POLICE

2006-07-09 23:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Richelle S 1 · 0 0

Do you have another adult family member you can trust - your mom, an aunt, a cousin? If not, then how about at school - a teacher, the school nurse? Or how about a friend's mom? If you're too afraid to go to the police directly, that's okay - but you need to tell an adult you trust. If you don't feel like you have anybody you can trust, call ChildHelp USA 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). If you call from a regular phone, it won't show up on the phone bill. Or you can call for free from a payphone.

2006-07-09 22:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Cepheid 3 · 0 0

You should not feel afraid. Adults have their way of intimidating younger people. To began go to your nearest hospital emergency room. Speak with someone in the crisis unit. These people are trained and equip (some have experience a similar situation) to handle these delicate situation. you will get all the TLC, professional and psychological help needed. They will guide you in the right direction. These people are like your guardian angel. A situation like this you must not bear alone. Once considering the thoughts of suicidal idealization usually one eventual carries it out. Get yourself together and get to the nearest hospital crisis prevention unit and speak with a professional. Everything said within them walls are kept confidential until you are ready to move forward and put an end to this nightmare. They will remove you from the horrible, deceitful situation. Right now you self esteem may be low, you might even feel as though you are the blame but, you need to realize that you aren't.

2006-07-09 23:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by patricia m 2 · 0 0

If your concerned that people won't believe you, and most that know your dad must think he's the best right? The get a voice activated recorder, they come very small. keep it on you all the time. Next that monster hurts you, you will have proof. then run with it. Go to the adult you trust the most. A minister, teacher, policeman. You have to get out of that situation NOW. Don't wait until it's too late. Try this, I know it will work. How old are you?

2006-07-10 00:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Memere RN/BA 7 · 0 0

I know how you feel sort of. I was raped 6 years ago and never told the police. Now i regret it cause could have done it to someone else. You should go to the police i know it will be scary (that's why i chickened out) but you need to. He needs to be stopped, The next time he abuses you, if there are any injuries take photos, and go to the police. He cant deny it if you have physical evidence. And if its of a sexual nature, i know this is gross, but if he ejaculates don't wipe it away, don't have a shower just go to the cops or call them.

Good luck.

2006-07-10 00:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Does he drink alcohol??? even if you think he doesn't, look again....Alanon, Alateen is peer support for people in need (we help each other).
No one there will tell you what to do, but show you tools & options to become a stronger person.....Many others are living with many kinds of abuse, too. You are not alone when you join with others...... Don't expect your dad to change or ever help you.....he has a problem & it's not your fault; you need others who have compassion because some of them have been there - and others just have compassion.....it's anonymous, meaning nobody gives their full names. It's in the phone book, online, and FREE!
Don't give up.....help is available.....even if it takes time to find it, KEEP TRYING....you'll find it. I've been there...

Don't make threats.....just find out how to take better care of you!
You can't do it alone; it's too big; but don't expect the cops to help...there's little they can do.....

2006-07-09 23:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by bjoybead 2 · 0 0

OK Well ur talking to a girl with 2 fathers like that well sort of....... biological father is a murderer and step is a molestor.......... Well all i can say is tell sum1 ............. iv thought abt suicide also but i am telling u that that isnt the answer OK............. I've been scared my whole life and well it gets scarier and scarier and i told my friend wen i shouldnt hav and now my fam moves every 3 months but i still keep in touch with him........ OK u kno wat if u tell then he wont b able 2 do n e thing abt it and wat u need to do is call the cops or sumthing or tell ur mother n e body and tell them that u need help or else u'll die like this not suicide but u'll b killed and i dont want u 2 hav 2 suffer that horrible fate................. It is sad and painful but thats y u hav 2 do sumthing abt it OK Trust Me

2006-07-09 22:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by i_luv_ca2000 2 · 0 0

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