I had one a couple of years ago now. I still think of it often. any Expereinces to talk about? How do you overcome it so far. I wrote a poem about it. It does not bother me so much anymore but sometimes i find myself feeling sad. I know now that everything happens for a resaon, i reilze that now!
2006-07-09 15:42:36 · 11 answers · asked by It's me... 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
yes, it'll be two years this month since i miscarried our baby. i still think of the him often... it's as if there's a hole in our lives where he should now be. in my head i know that, like the pp said, something must have been "wrong" to prevent the pregnancy from continuing, that doesn't take away the pain in my heart when i think of everything that we are missing by not having that sweet baby in our arms each day. i just deal with it by sitting in the garden where i planted the lavender bush in his memory, and letting the waves of grief wash over me when they must. yes, everything may happen for a reason... but noone said we had to like or accept those reasons!
2006-07-09 16:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by kaydeedid 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I had two and that was the most difficult period of my life so far. The first one was really screwed up from the get go. I knew the first day of my last period but the the baby was measuring 2 weeks smaller than that first of all. Then my bloodwork was not good and my numbers weren't as high as they should have been nor were they doubling like they were supposed to. I was almost 16 weeks pregnant and was going for my routine prenatal visit and at that visit the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat-she sent me for an ultrasound at the hospital just to be sure and come to find out the babies(I was actually carrying twins and didn't know it) had died a couple of weeks prior and I had no idea. I had no bleeding no cramping no nothing. Looking back now I realize that I lost my pregnancy symptoms but I thought it was just getting later in the pregnancy and I was just starting to feel better. Honestly I never knew that could happen-I thought you always bled and would always know when you were miscarrying. That was so hard for me to deal with. Such a slap in the face to say the least. I had to have a D&C. 5 days after that was 9/11 so that didn't help my spirits at all. Then in the beginning of January I had another one (early this time and I knew it was happening), I went on to have no period for a year which is torture for someone who lives period to period trying to have a baby. Finally I switched to a doctor who was willing to try and help me more and she put me on Clomid. 3 months later my first daughter was concieved. She is now 2 &1/2. We also now have a second daughter who is 13 months old and was concieved naturally. I am so very lucky and thankful to have them. When I was going through all of this I never thought I'd get through it or be able to have kids but we got through it and are so very happy. I hope someone that may be experiencing something similar to this will read this and have hope. Miracles happen...and my babies are living proof !!!
2006-07-09 16:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of it this way, your body automatically would know if there was something wrong with your baby and would terminate the pregnancy. It probably saved your child from a life of pain or disfigurement. That's how I think of my miscarriage. I was pretty far along when it happened, it takes a while to heal. My husband was so supportive when it happened, and never made me feel like it was or could have been my fault. Having a supportive significant other like that helps. Try and talk to someone about it when you are feeling sad, and remember it wasn't your fault.
2006-07-09 15:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jacci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage two years ago. I was distraught from the whole ordeal. Now that I have my daughter I don't think about it much. I talk about how I had one if I am talking to someone that was going through it themselves, but besides that, I have gotten over it. I have two other children, boys, besides my daughter and I felt that I could not take away from them with my sorrow for my lost child.
2006-07-09 15:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Queenmeupscottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had a miscarriage but my sister was pregnant at the same time as me and we were due a few weeks apart and she lost her baby, so i sort of went throughout it as well. I felt like i had lost my own child. I have also had lots of friends have them. My sister barely talked to me throughout the rest of my pregnancy as it hurt her too much, but once my son was born it was a different story!!!
I think every loss takes time, allow yourself the time to heal. No matter how long it takes!! Everybody manages in different ways!
2006-07-09 16:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not had a miscarriage, but my mother had one. She had it before I was ever born. Her ex-husband pushed her down the stairs and she lost the baby. Although it didn't happen to me it still hurts, knowing I lost a brother or sister. I would like to hear your poem, and I hope you find happiness in life!
2006-07-09 15:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i write alot about it and talk to others when they have miscarriages. I still feel the pain and a missing piece. I now have 5 kids and i think of the 4 i miscarried often. it dont go away.
2006-07-09 15:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have never had a miscarriage but I can imagine how hard it would be to overcome. I also believe that everything happens for a reason. Good luck!
2006-07-09 15:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had 2 and it was a very difficult thing to get over. you really never get over it but life goes on.
2006-07-09 15:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by pty4adime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i had one back in 1990 superbowl weekend
2006-07-10 17:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by momofthesouth2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋