I have caught my daughter and her cousin playing "doctor" a couple times. Both times I have told them that it is "nasty" and "not appropriate". I tried not to make it a huge deal, but Im so confused as to handle the situation. As a little girl I remember playing games like that with another little girl across the street. We would kiss eachother and touch eachother in private areas. We knew what we were doing was wrong because if someone happened to walk in we would lie about it. Which is now what my daughter is doing, except I have not caught the kissing or touching. I have just walked in to have one child with no underwear on. I am really scared that she may have been molested when she was younger by a babysitter or daycare provider. I dont remember being molested as a child but I have questioned my daughter and she tells me no one is touching or has touched her. I m not sure I believe her though. Is this normal for her age or should I consult a professional.
2006-07-09 15:33:26 · 12 answers · asked by ms jen 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Okay, seriously. Chill. When I was that age, I played "doctor" with my friends and my cousins all the time. Children at that age sometimes don't even think about, nor care about, things like privacy and modesty. Even if they are taught it is wrong, yelling at them or telling them that their bodies are disgusting is just not the way to handle it. If you are seriously still concerned, I would suggest talking to a parenting counselor or a child psychologist. I am sure they can help answer your questions much better than I can.
2006-07-09 15:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not having their underwear on??? That is just not normal! Sounds like something has happened, and I would get her in for therapy ASAP.
You also need to talk to the parent(s) of the other child about what you suspect and have seen. Even if they get defensive and cuss you out, at least they and their child will know that you are well aware of what is going on, and this will send both a message!
I would also be very reserved about letting your daughter and this other child play together. If they do, their should be someone in the vicinity at all times.
2006-07-09 23:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by rhino 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is a normal 5-6 year old. She is curious about her body and she has discovered that touching feels good. All children experiment and play doctor. I wouldn't start to worry about sexual abuse, unless I started seeing unusual signs of promiscuity or a drastic change in her behavior. Please don't make her feel dirty because of normal child development, just teach her what is appropriate behavior where this type of touching is concerned. Sounds like she needs a little sexual education that is age appropriate. Nothing too in depth! Just try to be calm when you talk to her as you don't want to frighten her or make her feel that she is abnormal.
2006-07-09 22:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did when I was a child but I would be worried because my cousin & I had been molested & we didn't know that it was ok. I ws molested by an older cousin, and my mom was an addict so also molested by lots of strange men I think you have valid concerns & I'd be cautious of who's around your child. 15 years later & I still havent' told my mom & dad. & never will Its too embarrassing & awkward & my cousins like all married , but I think you should be concerned. or maybe her cousin has been molested & she thinks they're playing a game. I'd talk to her cousin's mom about this too.
2006-07-09 22:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by atotalditz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think all kids not just girls like to play house and doctor... not a good thing for kids to play either gives them bad ideas.. my brother used to play them games when he was in some group homes and he ended up raping me and some other girls. so if ur kids are playing them games i would stop them now before it gets to far or anything bad happeneds.
unforutnety i was molested as a child many times. and i tell u its no fun. ur daughter may have well been molest and may also have been told that if she tells any one she will get hurt or taken from her mommy its a famouse thing ppl like to say to little girls
2006-07-09 22:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to her Dr about whats going on. I think playing Dr is normal but I don't think that the touching is appropriate.
2006-07-09 22:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by jj02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i see it like this, you did it when you were younger and you turned out okay didnt you? so why freak about your daughter doing it? i would monitor her a little better if you dont want her doing it, but i wouldnt really worry too much about it.
2006-07-09 22:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by krystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you should consult a professional. Looks like you need some help, too.
2006-07-09 22:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Raymond 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah just keep an eye out --i feel like its normal--me & my friend were a little younger & we would pretnd we were in labor & deliver stuff animals---it really freaked her mom out & we were told not to do it --i think we had to of got it off of t v---so moniter that too
2006-07-09 22:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by CoC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I played house, but I never touched/was touched. Maybe you should get her evaluated.
2006-07-09 22:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by angry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋