I know some do for money, but if money is not involved why?
Why would a girl, who has alot going for her (looks, education, career, etc.), that is in her early to mid 20's want to hook up with a guy in his late 30's or older?
Why would she want to hook up with a man that has older kids, say 10 or older?
If you are the parents of a girl that did or has done this, what do you think?
If you are the parents of a son who hooked up with a young girl, what do you think about her?
Have any of you had a friend that did this? If so, are you all still in contact? friends? do you hang out with the old man and kids? It has been my experience that girls who do this really don't have close friends or seperate themselves from anyone who cares about them. I assume, because they know it is wierd, wrong or something? Right?
If you are a dude that has hooked up like this, I understand, but don't you question her motives or mental state? Do you have friends? What do they think?
2006-07-09 15:30:49 · 11 answers · asked by Cing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My woman did not leave me for an older guy. I am not an idiot. Matter of fact, I am an MBA. I am not young. I am 28, single, own my home, have a successful career, educated, got my "stuff" together. I have just always found this curious.
2006-07-09 16:09:03 · update #1
I have spent many hours trying to figure out the same thing. Well guess what...They are all stupid!! No brain's are involved!! So give up..you'll get wrinkles from worring!!
2006-07-09 15:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Wishee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok what in the heck is so wrong with an adult woman in her early to mid 20's hooking up (as you call it) with a man 10 to 15 years her senior. You have got to be a younger guy who is jealous. Whatever the case age is really irrelevant except for the fact that we mature faster than men therefore it is actually a really compatible union. I was 27 when I started dating my now husband. He was 42 and is now 46 and I 31. My husband has a 19 year old and 23. Both girls. I have a very good amount of experience in the dating world and this match between the two of us could not be more beautiful and the age is not a factor. Young men are very immature usually and are much better partners after they have experienced life a little. They learn to appreciate things and not take them for granted, which is a problem most people never seem to overcome.
2006-07-09 22:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by BRANDI R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good question. I have a friend from school that is 24 and her boyfriend is... are you ready for this?...60 years old. She was hired by the office manager as a receptionist and he was one of the doctors in the practice. They met and felt a connection and have been together for 2 years. She is a student and has a daughter from a previous relationship. She has her place, he has his. She lives like a typical 24 year old, not spoiled by his money and all that jazz. She has a ton of friends, as does he. They throw huge cookout/get togethers and everyone (friends and family) is invited and everyone gets along. I was very surprised when I found out that this boyfriend she kept talking about was as old as he is. He's young at heart and most 60 year old women probably couldn't keep up with him so he went and found himself a woman that could. His kids are only a few years older than her and he has grandkids that are the same age as her daughter. They all get along and have a great time, and she's treated good so who am I to judge. Would I do it? Probably not... but it works for BOTH of them so as long as they are happy, I'm happy.
2006-07-09 22:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Renee' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both parties are of legal, consenting age, there's nothing "wrong" with it...however, I've never understood the appeal. When I was in my early 20s, guys over 30 held no appeal...and guys old enough to be my parent, even less so...
...now that I'm over 40, I cannot imagine dating a 20-something, and even someone early 30s would have to be an exceptional person, whom I felt a strong attraction for, before I'd even consider it...
Different people like different things for sure...but I've always preferred keeping it to within no more than 10 yrs of my own age (although it's even less now)...I want to date someone I have things in common with, who's on the same page (or similar) in Life as I am...who's probably had some similar life experiences, etc... but that's just me...
2006-07-09 22:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that after you hit 25 then age is just a #. Alot of people are with older people for reasons. Some are there for money and some are there cause they are cared for. I have two sons and if they are over 25 and are with someone older then them all I can say is if they treat my son great and he is in love then age dont mean anything. I do have friends that are younger then me and to me I dont see any thing wrong if they are over 25.
2006-07-09 22:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend she was in here early 20s, she hooked up with this dude that was in his 50s with kids that was as old as she was, (everyone dis-approve of the relationship) i ask here, she said he knows how to treat and love here. No she don't hang out in our group any more. Oh, that dude died about 3 years in the relationship of a blood clot. she still don't hang out with us.
2006-07-09 22:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by alphavalleies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be a money grabber or simply looking for someone mature. Most guys will admit they are vastly immature compared to females of the same age. As for the guy, it is pretty obvious his motivation.
2006-07-09 22:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by BigDaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my girlfriend is 17, and I'm 25. I love her with all my heart, and she loves me. She has looks, an education that she keeps on furthering. My parents love her and she really gets along with them.
2006-07-09 22:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jill's_Pirate_Master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no self esteem and is probably looking for a father figure since hers was either physically or emtionally absent!
2006-07-09 22:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you an idiot or what???? Love knows no boundaries. If your woman left you for an older guy, it is probably because you act like a KID, and ask stupid questions like this one.
2006-07-09 22:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋