asking you what you are doing? My mother does this to me frequently and I am 24. And if I tell her what I'm doing its not like she is going to understand, so why does she ask?
2006-07-09 15:19:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Befoe you guys start telling me to move out let me clarify, this is my house she moved in with me and my family.
2006-07-09 15:24:37 · update #1
I can't really tell her to back off, nto even in a nice way because she'll take it personal.
2006-07-09 15:28:36 · update #2
If you are going to be having your Mom living with you and your family for an extended period of time, you are going to have to learn to set boundaries and keep them, or it could become far too stressful on you all and take a heavy toll.
If you don't know how to set boundaries, or what they are, or where it is and isn't applicable, there are some excellent books on the subject. Also, I would recommend talking to a counselor, if even just a few sessions, to get some recommendations.
It is not at all out of line for you to be able to tell Mom that you would like to have your privacy sometimes, that it bothers you to have someone looking over your shoulder, and it;s not because you are doing anything you sohuldn;t, you just dont like it.
Best of luck to you.
P.S. Things won't change if you don't make them change.
2006-07-09 15:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would definitely annoy me. It's sometimes hard for family members to realize that you still need some privacy, even from them. Does your mom want to try using the computer? If she has a hobby that she is really into (like gardening or something) maybe you set her up with an account and show her how to go into a chat room for gardening. But if she is not aware of the internet much, then you should "hover" over her so she doesn't go somewhere she shouldn't! lol
2006-07-10 00:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by hotandtastylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably just a mother instink(sp?) still. I know I may be fifteen, but I dont really have that problem. Just, I know a lot of parents fear what their children might do, and getting into the habbit its like "What are you doing!?" So many things us humons have gotten into by the internet today, so many others fear for their loved ones. Frankly, I kind of wish my parents gloomed over my shoulder here and there.
2006-07-09 22:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by ~Elle~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are looking over my shoulders all the time. It drives me crazy.
Why do you live with your parents? Get a job and move out!
2006-07-09 22:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by therego2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you are too old to have her watching over you all the time like a little kid. Let her know that you are growing up and you dont like that.
2006-07-09 22:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yes it annoys me, i have my mother staring over my shoulder, and makes sure i'm not chatting with boys (i'm 15) then my brothers look over my shoulder and say,"MOM, ASHLYN'S LOOKING AT PORNO!!!!!!!!!"(when i'm not, usually Y! Answers) then i get grounded, not for the lie that my brothers said, but for beating the living dog shitt out of them......
sorry about the life story..... i just had to let that out to someone... sorry!
2006-07-09 23:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♫♥Ashlyn♥♫♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is hard to get a different Mom and they are even harder to train! So can you close a door? or find something for your mom to do besides watch you.
2006-07-09 22:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honey does that all the time but then he reads my answers and starts to give me **** I am sooo sick of it
2006-07-09 22:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should move out and i hate if someone was behind me if im the computer it feels creepy no matter who it is
2006-07-09 22:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by asianboy7o7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of you didn't bother to read her post carefully. She said it's HER house.
2006-07-10 13:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋