This guy told me he has "fallen for me". Is that the same as falling in love? We've been hanging out for about 6 months. I am obviously on the rebound, but he doesn't seem to mind, and treats me real nice. Thing is, we are absolute opposites. We are NOT each other's type, but there is still an undeniable attraction. No, we haven't slept together. Yes, we have talked about it. What we landed on was this: let's just be good friends like Jerry and Elaine because a relationship would NEVER EVER work between us. We are opposites with religion, politics, the whole bit. Well, all at the same time, he tells me he's after this girl he knows through someone at work, AND that he's "fallen for me", that he can't help it, and that he knows there's a line he can never cross with me even though he wants to. What the hell is that? Honest answers please no immature teenagers, thanks.
2006-07-09 15:16:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS... He's very Christian. He is a virgin. We have been hanging out for 6 MONTHS, by his choice mostly, not mine. He is a perfect mid-westernly raised gentleman. Not like most of ya's. Please answer with this information in mind.
2006-07-09 15:23:46 · update #1
If I'm reading this right, it means even though he agrees with you that you are opposites, he's still very fond of you. Opposites attract you know. He may be interested in someone else that is more like himself, but at the same time there you are intriguing to him to the point that he can't get you out of his mind. He's curious beyond reason about you with all your differences.
2006-07-09 15:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by swm_seeks_sf 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its close to being in love. It also means that he does not want to push you since you are on the rebound. He may also still want some space between the both of you so that nobody gets pushed into anything.
I was divorced just over a year ago and know how the "rebound relationship" can be cursed. I have been seeing someone for 6 months now that is almost done with her divorce. I don't want to be her "rebound" either. I use words like your friend does, but I also let the "L" word slip.
Ask him if he has thought about any plans for the future, but don't be in any hurry.
2006-07-09 22:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by dbelyew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I'm a teenager but I'm not immature. And this is my honest answer. Don't do it. If you believe that the relationship won't work... don't go for it because you have to believe in something like that for it to work. If he's going after some other girl... that's a clear sign that though he may like you he's not totally interested just in you. Well I hope that helped. Good Luck to you.
2006-07-09 22:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by TheONEJay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's been striking out with his current girlfriend and isn't getting any lovin' so he's coming back to you hoping to score a quicky to get back on track. If you've drawn the line and both of you know it, then why even say you've "fallen" for someone? He's either the world's dumbest genius or the smartest retard...
2006-07-09 22:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's testing you. He wants you to say yes, you want him, love him, want a re;lationhsip with him, diffences don't matter, etc. But they seem to matter, at least to you. I think he's afraid of rejection.
He's falleen for you means he loves you, probably not in a matiure way, but wants you for his GF and for sex.
I'd keep the friendhip strong, the boundaries firm, and you might have a life-long friends who, perhaps will see in a different light, from both ends someday.
2006-07-09 22:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression, "Fallen madly in lust"? I hope you two don't marry each other, but if you both can mentally and emotionally handle being each others sex buddies, try him out and see if you two are compatible on that level.
2006-07-09 22:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by ponysense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either a. he's a wuss, or b. he's too good for you. Chances are it's 'a'. Take him out and scrogg his brains out. Make a man of him. Poor bastard probably has the worst case of blue balls in your county.
2006-07-10 04:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by rumplesnitz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to have sex with you. Since you two have already have a barrier as 'let's just be good friends', he is too smart and cautious to tell it himself. He wants you to make the move! Hope this helps. Decision is yours. I think you have hots for him too.
2006-07-09 22:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by SH007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of the best lines ever used by men, i know ive used it myself, to try and get a girl to sleep with me
2006-07-09 22:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by roblgolden@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... this is just a booty call for him. He knows you're in a fragile state and he's trying to juice you.
2006-07-09 22:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by unknown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋