He's been through way too much with me not to love me, or he would've left by now. I'm a single parent, and my daughter is 2 1/2. We were only together a few months before I was diagnosed with cancer. No sex for almost 7 mos. because of the treatments I underwent. It's hard to make anyone understand the emotional roller-coaster I was on, and still am. We broke up for about 6 months (I broke up with him). His kids had came in town from out of state and it's as if I was pushed aside. I don't mind us all spending time together because I'm a parent too and I love his kids. Now we are back together and the kids are in town again for the summer and once again I feel pushed aside and not in on plans. I know it's important to spend one-on-one time with them. But am I over-reacting to want a piece of it too? I love him alot and he swears he's not going anywhere. I've explained to him how I feel. We live in a very family friendly area both of us.There's no reason we can't hang out.
2006-07-09 15:11:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that! I couldn't even imagine. But I'm sure things like that just make a relationship even stronger...?
It sounds like you love your man so much, that you can't find a way to let go and share him a little bit. When his kids come in town, he has to give up a lot of his time to them. This takes away from you, and messes up the whole routine of things...? Just hang in there, and keep reminding yourself it's a temporary situation. He probably doesn't have all the time in the world to be with his kids, so he is temporally taking away from the time you usually spend together. Being bitter about it, will just make things worse on yourself. Try your best to get involved on your own. Be positive, and remember at the end of the day he is your man. These are his kids, and he needs to be with them right now. Good luck....:)
2006-07-09 15:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't. Most of us men don't understand womens feelings. We ourselves are limited to only a few. He cares, just no matter how hard you try to make him understand, it will only frusterate him. My wife gets very annoyed with me when I don't understand. She tries so hard to make me understand, but women just think differently then men, they also think about things longer then men, and dwell on them longer. I ,like most men, after 30 seconds have changed subjects or quit thinking about it. As for the kids, you need to talk to him, tell him to set aside a day with the kids with you. And you make the plans for the day. Something fun, something the kids will like, even if it means you are bored out of your mind. Next time the kids visit they will suggest to do something with you. Then you can slowly dominate them into doing things you want. MUAHAH..
Good luck.
2006-07-09 15:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by dragoon_tikii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He's been through way too much with me not to love me, or he would've left by now."
Wow, this is such a big assumption. You need to ask him point blank WHY you can't participate when his kids are in town. If the answer isn;t good enough, get yer cancer *** out of there!
2006-07-09 15:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
zat is true u r over reacting u always hav ur kid next 2 u so he is used 2 it n since u r nt used to his kids as he was always nex 2 u zat is why u r feeling a diff so try 2 understand him he is just trying to give his kids the share of lov they need...if u lov someone n zat someone luv u 2 and had promiss 2 be by ur side there is no points 2 worry..if u will, zat will annoy him and he might take ze wrong steps...so b kool and calm dnt worry....
2006-07-09 15:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Artist * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's your question? I'd say, if he loved you, he'd understand your feelings and care. However, I believe some men do care and are simply incapable of being able to show it. Don't settle. It's not about finding the perfect man, it's about finding a man who's faults you can live with. You obviously aren't happy, since you took the time to write here. I'd find someone who makes you feel they way you deserve to to feel. Loved.
2006-07-09 15:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by wendyc222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have an emotionally very immature man. He is probably afraid to let them know you, out of fear they Will disapprove, and he fears that he has to have their approval.
This is probably all you can expect from this emotional cripple. You deserve someone who is proud of you and wants to show you off. not shove your down and away.
2006-07-09 15:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be doing something lol wrong.
2006-07-09 15:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by PSG_30127 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋