I've been friends with a woman for about a year now. When we first met, there was a little sexual tension early on, but I never acted on it so I ended up in the dreaded Friend Zone. Now we are very close friends and we are comfortable enough around eachother to talk about anything. The only thing I don't talk with her about is a possible relationship between us. I'm afraid if I tell her how I feel then I'll be ruining the friendship and I will have lost both a good friend AND a potential lover. So for all the ladies reading this, is it possible to bring yourself out of the Friend Zone? Or should I just resign myself to being 'just friends' and move on?
2006-07-09 15:04:33 · 11 answers · asked by Sean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hang in the "friend zone" date other women and see what happens. I am engaged to my best friend for 6 years. He hung in there and it worked for him.
2006-07-09 15:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a lady, but if you're in the 'friend zone' how can you say bringing this up makes you lose a good friend and 'potential lover'. Number one if you can't tell her how you feel without her freaking and you losing her then she isn't as good of a friend as one would think. Number two right now she isn't a potential lover, because you're in the friend zone. She can't become a potential lover until you tell her how you feel. So, you're choices are tell her how you feel and maybe lose a good friend, tell her how you feel and create a potential lover, or tell her how you feel and keep a really good friend. Anyhow, I made it out of the friend zone once upon time, so yes it is possible, but it's not like a normal relationship. I couldn't treat as nice as I wanted to, because there were so many things that we'd already done together. I couldn't try to hard either, because she felt that I was changing. She was right though, once you get them, you try so hard to keep them and yes change. So, I became a little different and she didn't like it that much. So, we stayed good friends and now she loves me til the day one of us dies anyway. Plus, I can have as many girls as I want and she doesn't care. LOL. Good Luck.
2006-07-09 15:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by socomgoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how patient you are. If you wait it out, she may discover something wonderful right under her nose. If you are in a hurry and need to push the issue, then a friendly conversation may be in order. Explain to her that you really value your friendship, but could see it becoming more than that given the feelings you have. Just know that impatience is not often rewarded, and that the awkwardness and tension created by such an assertion will likely lead to an abrupt end to the friendship if she does not have the same feelings for you. It's a gamble - but sometimes it's better to know the answer and move on rather than waking and wondering day after day whether you'll ever be anything more than a pal.
2006-07-09 15:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by www.ayntk.blogspot.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is,when you are both single and available ,get together with her, and have a couple of drinks. ask her to dance to a slow song if she says ok, while your dancing hold her close look into her eyes and slowly give her a tender kiss on the lips,if she pulls away ,apologize and tell her how you feel.if she doesn't pull away kiss her a little harder and hug her like you want to be standing where she is .i've got out of the zone with 2 girls that way and it opened doors to some of thier other friends. hope this helps
2006-07-09 15:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well potential lover...quite long term hummm...let me think..Don't just resign like that..that will be cheating on her....If you want her to b yours or want to see if she has feelings 4 u..just say that "a girl is interested in u n want to marry u" She'll obviously ask ur opinion and then say since u r a goood frnd I would like u to advise me...now u kno her for 365 days opprox so u will see her reaction n might read what she rellay want...then..humm you kno...I don;t need 2 tell more..
2006-07-09 15:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by Artist * 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever think,she might be having the same feeling's? You sound like a good thinking guy. If you were my "friend",for all this time,I would be more than willing to sit down and REALY,talk about the whole thing. Who knows,it might lead to more than a talk??Good luck.
2006-07-09 15:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and expect a happy ending, keep in the "Friend Zone" and wait until things ripen then propose to her.
2006-07-09 15:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by pyj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is more precious 4 u:everlasting friendship or another relationship that might end up in ruins?
2006-07-09 15:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by scorpion prince89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude if u don't try u won't get any anything right ? so y not go gentlely n c wat it will leads 2 . tis friend zone is also a comfort zone . so get away fm it n try .
2006-07-09 15:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes just let her know how u feel about her
2006-07-09 15:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋