Whenever I go out with my parents, to dinner, or some event...the days stress finally takes its toll. I can never tell anyone my true feelings about life and how I learn to cope with it day after day. They say I'm depressed and I always "ruin their meal".
I know I'm not depressed because whenever I'm out with my friends, I have a blast and I'm the star of the party. I don't have any disorder except for type I diabetes, which I learned to manage and control with the help of my dad. How can I make myself more enjoyable to my parents and not get them stressed out all the time?
Thanks.
2006-07-09 15:03:23 · 11 answers · asked by oreo_cream_76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am not sure how old you are,but if you are not a child/teen, talk to them and explain how you feel.Do not let anyone make you feel bad about yourself or take away your sunshine. You keep your head up high and have a good time where ever you are and with who ever you are with.
2006-07-09 15:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is at the heart of all of this is the fact that with you as it is for most young people---you are in a stage of life where you are setting the perimeters for your life and the image that you want to project to the world and because of that you are in a mode that all but demands the total control of all the factors that show anything of yourself other than the ones that you want to be revealed----the parents are just too much the definable you that can not be altered or munipulated to fit that projected profile---they are the uncontrolable definition of the definable basic YOU --and that makes having them around you in a public situation extremely uncomfortable---and because none of this could possibly be YOU -----IT HAS TO BE THEM---and so the loop is replayed again and again and having them around confines--restricts and defines you and that is the thing that is causing your problem here---it will go away when you grow up---------
2006-07-09 15:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps if you turn the conversation around so that you are the asker of questions and not the askee. Get your parents to talk about their day or some other subject. You can be yourself with them if you can let them see you in your own time, when things are in your control. Won't hurt to try.
2006-07-09 15:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them about depressing stuff during meal times and social events. Talk to them after the party is over or whatever...talk to your friends about your problems too.
2006-07-09 15:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by thaithaismom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old are You. If you're old enough tell them u rather do something else besides going out with them. If you're young well you're just out of luck. Maybe they need to seek counseling.Maybe do it as a family to find out why they pick on u so much. Maybe it's them and not you. I hope u lots of luck. Take care.
2006-07-09 15:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one something is really wrong, because when i with my parent i have a ball. they also get on my nerves somethings but I'm 27 and me and my family always sit down when i was young and have a family talk for any to get anything off there chest. so ask can you have a family decision and lay it on the line. remember you think you have so much fun when you with your friends but went it really matters friends are not there only your family. trust me
2006-07-09 15:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by ria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't complain all the time. Life is good, live it up. Many people are in a worse situation than you.
2006-07-09 15:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to not keep everything inside. You need to talk more about your feelings. You said that you have friends, talk to them about things, that's what freinds are for.
2006-07-09 15:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto Mark
everyone goes through that with their parents, once you actually realize your parents love you and want the best for you, then you can bond with them. and yes, they know what you are going through, they were there once too.
2006-07-09 15:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waaaah, your parents are a pain in the ***. Get over it. Nobody expresses themselves honestly to their parents. Grow up.
2006-07-09 15:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋