I have to constantly beg him to have sex with me or else it never happens. He's fine with everything else I tell him, but he sometimes seems like he doesn't want to even touch me. He says he's attracted to me, but I'm not so sure. Is it strange for the girl to want more sex than the guy or does he just not find me attrative?
2006-07-09 14:46:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oftentimes, a man and a woman will hook up in a relationship because of other things they have in common, such as mutual attractiveness. However, sometimes, each ones hormones are at levels that cause such variant levels of lust that one expects sex much more than the other expects to perform sex. This form of incompatibility doesn't mean that the person who desires it less finds the other unattractive or is seeing someone else. A great amount of difference in levels of lust can cause such difficulty in a relationship that the couple is better off splitting up. Ask yourself if it is worth it to you to leave him for someone whose libido more closely matches yours, but consider just getting your OWN self off when he can't get you off and see if you are happy living your life that way. If you choose to leave him, be honest and point out that you desire sex way more frequently than he can provide it and that you don't want to suffer any more.
2006-07-09 15:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by ponysense 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's up with this dude? What man refuses to have sex unless initiated? Try having a conversation about what's going on between you two sexually and ask some fundamental questions like, Are you seeing someone else and no longer interested in having sex with me? Don't you find me sexually attractive anymore? Is there something that I am doing or not doing that is turning you off. Ask the questions Something is up and it ain't his Pen-s
2006-07-09 14:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to constantly beg then I don't think the problem is you having a higher sex drive.
I think either he - unlike most guys - is not into sex or is not attracted to you regardless if he says otherwise.
If this is a big issue for you talk to him about it and see if anything can be done to help the situation if not then move on...
2006-07-09 14:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by PROMISCUOUS SEDUCTION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strange and it doesn't necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you. He may have issues. I would let him know that you want more than what he is giving, ask him why he doesn't want to have sex with you more often. You may need to think about ending the relationship, although sex isn't everything in a relationship, it is an important part. Good Luck.
2006-07-09 14:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are under 30, not married and no kids, there is something very wrong if he isn't jumpin your bones all the time.
He is either:
1. possibly gay or bi or sexually confused so he avoids it with you.
2. Gettin some lovin from somewhere else
3. or (very rare on this one, but does happen) is a compulsive masturbator (I mean like 5 or more times a day, every day) and has no energy left for you.
Try and talk to him when the mood is right. Tell him you want to be sexy to him and ask if there is anything you can do more/less of. Try not to be demanding, but listen carefully for clues.
Good luck!
2006-07-09 14:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by cigarnation 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think this situation is normal, but I have also been involved in a similar one. One of my last boyfriends didn't seem interested in sex, and I always had to initiate. I hope things go in the other direction for you guys. Have you talked to him about how you feel? Communication is extremely important.
2006-07-09 15:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Geo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to have to say in my experience, yes this is weird. Unless you're wanting sex 24/7. Have you talked to him about how this makes you feel? If not, then you should. Find out why he doesn't like to initiate sex. Maybe he feels intimidated. Maybe he just likes having you in control.
2006-07-09 14:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cut his a$$ loose! Bc you are a sexual person & you like to have sex? & that makes you a slut? Lol he's horrible to say that about you .. u woulda punched him in the penis! Lol but you should question his sexuality or he's cheating on you! One of the 2 ! He's not attracted to you so I'd really keep a eye on him!
2016-03-15 21:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, girls can hold out longer than guys, but when two guys get together...wow. It's like Grand Central Station for sex.
But anyways, I think that he might have erectile disfunctions or something. Or he's really not attracted, but he's just saying that so he wont hurt you. Either way, I'd get out.
2006-07-09 14:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Blue Sky Dreaming 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what's wrong with that guy?
he does have a penis, right?
damn... i feel lonely
p.s. - pretty sure he either A) gets it somewhere else or B) he's wanks it alot or C) he's GAY or D) he's like forty something and has high blood pressure and needs to see a doctor. SERIOUSLY.
p.s.s. - have you gained any significant amount of weight since you first met (ie. 20 pounds or more)? that could totally affect his attraction for you.
2006-07-09 14:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Friendly Neighbor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋