I'm curious to what you all think of your spouse or the person you are in a relationship watching porn, masturbating to porn, and thinking other people are hot and thinking of having sex with other people? Not having sex with anyone else(cheating) but fantasizing about it.
2006-07-09 14:40:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's natural. It can certainly be overdone, of course. The real question is: is it directly affecting the relationship? For example, f your partner isn't available for sex because he automatically turns to porn and masturbation for relief, then that can be a problem.
2006-07-09 14:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn or anything like that. It's alright to fantasize when you are in a relationship, it's perfectly healthy. It's also a good thing if you and your husband experiment, watch porn together to gain new understanding of sexual things and to get "in the mood". I think it's great for a relationship. But my thoughts are as the saying goes, "You can look, but don't touch."
2006-07-09 21:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Pikaia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's how some, if not most, people and in most case, men, are... men are horny sex craving animals and honestly, one woman doesn't do it to the frequency and amount that we need. A man probably need sex about three times a day and no way we're getting it three times a day because we probably suck at it and out significant other doesn't want it three times a day.
Therefore, either we watch porn, masturbate, watch porn and masturbate, or we cheat and have sex with someone else, but we'll probably still masturbate anyway. Sort of like pick your poison, but each other involves masturbation...
As long as he loves you, understands you, respects you (masturbating and watching porn is not disrespecting you, it's a way of venting our sexual steam) and doesn't cheat on you... let him be...
2006-07-09 21:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would suck! It makes you feel like you aren't good enough and they need time to look at other women and it makes you feel like "dam I can't get him as excited as those women and if I can, I am not the only one." It brings self-insecurity and lack of trust in a relationship. It is also something for immature asswholes to do.
Also, that fantasies are things you can't do in real life. People have different fantasies to break boundaries. Some think of everything you mentioned but some don't. In fact, many think of marriage even at a young age or having sex only with that one person in some fantasies or anything else that wouldn't be as degrading to your spouse.
2006-07-09 21:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by SweetTina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl doesnt mind it as long as it stays on the computer and I dont hide it, or when its outside shes cool with it as long as I just look and dont give them "the stare" ( I always make sure to let her know she is the only girl to seriously have my full attention and respect)
In return she can do the same, like at times we exchange links to websites that have this gross/weird stuff and porn on them
(Sorry, cant post a link here :\ )
2006-07-09 21:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. grass is always greener.....
2. always great to fantasize, u dont hurt anyone
3. maybe feelings of inadequacy
4. repressed desires (you dont give him what he sees in porn)
dont you fantasize too, for whatever reason?
2006-07-09 21:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, i can't... i mean if i see another man naked that is not the person i love... it is disgusting to me... Totally disgusting! I can't even think about anyone else in that way but HIM... I absolutely agree with you, because i can't understand that behaviour either... :S
2006-07-09 21:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew and just plain wrong. S L U T, P R O S T I T U T E, and W H O R E (also a biatch)
2006-07-09 21:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that shows lack of love and faith in the partner. If its the guy doing that then the girl needs to bend it like b and if its the girl doing that then the guy needs to understand her better and please her
2006-07-09 21:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by askance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not cheating but it should be kept private as to not hurt feelings. more people do it than those that would admit it.
2006-07-09 21:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by jamorososr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋