my mom and dad are divorced. my dad lives in california and me and my mom live out in michigan. today me and my mom got in an argument. we worked it out and its all cool now. but just now, i heard my mom talking to my dad on the phone telling him all about the fight and how it is all my fault! its so aggrevating!!!! why does she do that? she does it every time we fight. what should i do? should i talk to her about it?
2006-07-09 14:23:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i talk it out with my mom, by the way. i dont yell
2006-07-09 14:29:56 · update #1
i think you probaly should.that could solve it.
2006-07-09 14:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im a dad and im thinking we all need someone to talk to and no one wants to be wrong I'd be glad that your mom and dad are talking mybe let her know how YOU feel about her always makeing you the wrong one that can't be true all the Time say I really Love you mom then tell her how you FEEL about this then tell her you do LOVE HER and DAD and then stop and don't say anything els let her think about what you said I Hope this Helps
2006-07-09 14:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mark H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry - that does sound aggravating. Do talk to her. Tell her how YOU feel when you hear her telling your dad those things. If you say, "Mom, when I hear you telling Dad.... I feel really (scared, upset, whatever the feeling is) instead of saying, "Mom, you always tell Dad it's my fault" then she is less likely to get defensive and more likely to understand how it upsets you. I hope you can work this out .. growing up is hard sometimes.
2006-07-09 14:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can sit down and talk with her about it.. what goes on in your household should remain there unless its something both parents need to handle for your best interest. Open talks can only make the relationship stronger don't walk around saying or feeling you can't tell your mother nothing, because you feel she is going to TELL IT!
Ask her for some respect and privacy between your home
2006-07-09 14:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would !! I`d tell her that you thought everything was alright and settled but you overheard her on the phone with your Dad . Be upfront and honest with her and if she lies you know next time not trust anything she says or does. This way you have a clear mind and she can think about her lies when shes all alone!! I can`t stand people that lie!! OR stab people in the back!!!
2006-07-09 14:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you did. Are you obnoxious and not doing what she asks or getting into trouble??? Then it sounds like it was your fault. Grow up, learn to TALK with your mom and don't yell. Yelling gets you nowhere.
2006-07-09 14:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by leftygirl_75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over, let it go. She is the adult, she couldn't possibly admit to your dad that she was somewhat at fault, doesn't look good. If you were to bring it up, chances are you will end up in another arguement. Is it worth it?
2006-07-09 14:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by banker lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and tell her calmly how you feel. She should talk things through with you and keep it between the two of you.
2006-07-09 14:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still your Mom...I'm sure it hurts you, but consider it
a problem SHE needs to recognize and work to correct...
Have you told her, respectfully, how that makes you feel ???
Might help...
2006-07-09 14:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Merry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom doese the same thing are ur parents in a custody battle well if so then she says it so she doesn't look bad
2006-07-09 14:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you talk to her about it you will solve the problem
2006-07-09 14:28:59 · answer #11 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋