When do you know he is the one? I mean I find it hard to descern sometimes weather i like someone because he would be a good father and provider or because I Love hime. Is there really someone out there who could be both? Sometimes I wonder that.....what do you think?
2006-07-09 14:12:56 · 10 answers · asked by Little Wifey 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I dont mean that he needs to be the bill payer, I have a great job and do all that myself.
2006-07-09 14:26:39 · update #1
A husband dad is what he would have to be, I wouldnt marry someone just for me, it would have to be for my child too.
2006-07-09 14:27:20 · update #2
I decided that I think Fergy is a &^%%$ and assumes alot of negative crap....no offense.
2006-07-09 14:28:21 · update #3
yes he's out there he will love you and your child
2006-07-09 14:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by LifeWater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I'm reading you correctly, this is an hypothetical question and you don't have anyone in mind at the present time?
When you meet someone and get to know them better, and it begins to feel like this might be the one, GO SLOW! I mean, really, really slow. You will do your kid far more harm by making a poor choice than you will by being a single parent. Let the relationship build gradually, and let the guy interact with your child, but not as a prospective daddy. Just as a friend. See how he is with your kid, and how the child reacts to him.
It's important that you love him, and that he loves you, but don't forget there is a very vulnerable third party in any relationship you enter into for the next number of years -- until that child is old enough to be on their own. Is there someone out there who could be both a good father and provider, and who could love you? Yes, there probably is. But it won't be as easy to find him as it would be to begin a relationship that involved just you and some guy.
2006-07-09 17:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats one time when living together for awhile comes in handy and pays off well. Of course there could be both but you have to be kinda selective I think. Don't think with your heart alone. But your question leaves alot of room for concern. Its not really clear as to what you are actually asking. Are you a single parent looking for a husband/dad for your child? That is kind of selfish or whats the word? um, anyway, its your job to provide for the kid right? is it fair that you want a new husband to come walking in to your life and pay for your responsibilty? Maybe if we knew exactly what your question is. I dont mean any disrespect either ok?
2006-07-09 14:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it so much - the answer is already in you. The chances of your even wasting so much as five minutes on someone who doesn't like kids is most likely pretty remote. We tend to be drawn to people who share our own sense of values. Also, don't worry about trying to find someone who would be a good father. Again, chances are your not going to waste much time with someone that you don't think would. Women are pretty darn intuitive and it doesn't take long to read those kinds of things. Marry for yourself trusting that the man who accepts you for who you are is automatically going to share pretty closely your values. Besides, your child's attitude will to a large degree be determined by how he sees you being treated in a relationship and he will respond to that person accordingly.
2006-07-09 16:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. You are who you are and you think the way you do, because of your experiences. Mr. Right will be someone who understands why you think the way you do....and he will be patient, and he will love you more and more instead of less and less... He will marry you to commit himself to a lifelong marriage with you and to being a father to your child. Good luck to finding "the one". I too believe he is somewhere out there.
2006-07-09 14:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's out there...keep looking. When Mr. Right comes along you WILL know it. Like the Phil Collins song says...YOU CAN'T HURRY LOVE, NO, YOU JUST HAVE TO WAIT....
2006-07-09 14:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing to marry you and take on not just you, but your family as well, he's probably a good guy.
2006-07-09 14:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by ES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it wonderful, its a good example of resilience for the kids
2006-07-09 18:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by kacooper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll JUST KNOW. I know that sounds silly but it's still true.
2006-07-09 14:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by angelpockets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will tell
2006-07-09 14:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋