If are involved with someone who has lost a spouse, How long before you say enough is enough. I am here now and its my turn.
2006-07-09 14:06:49 · 8 answers · asked by angel739902 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your partner being a widow is quite different from someone that let's say got a divorce. Just think? This man spent a large portion of his life with her. I think that would be quite difficult to jump into another relationship, especially if you two jumped into a serious relationship right after her death. If you like him, give him a little time. However, if you are not comfortable with his feelings for his deceased spouse, then perhaps you will have to be the one to move on and find what you are really looking for. And let me tell you girlfriend, there is nothing wrong with that!
2006-07-09 14:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Gee what a nice, sweet, caring and sensitive person you are! lol Unless you have lost a spouse, you will never know the terrible pain that the poor person is suffering. Everyone's grief is different. There is no set time table for how long the person needs to grieve. Frankly, I hope you leave. Sounds like they would be better off with someone else who is not so selfish and self centered and demanding.
2006-07-09 14:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say a few years. They probably shouldn't have jumped into a relationship very soon anyway. Look at all the trouble Paul McCartney is having with HIS rebound marriage! The person needs a lot of time and space to sort out his feelings and become almost a "new man" again.--being single for a while and finding his/her identity without a partner. This, I believe, would help any future relationship because the past would be the past, he would be starting a new chapter with his feelings sorted out, and he would know what he wants in the next relationship, if he chooses to have any.
2006-07-09 14:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For everyone it's different. Sometimes the person will never get over it. Don't try to take that person's place unless your partner says it is ok, or that could cause problems. Just be there for them whenever they need it and it should cause them to move on a little quicker.
2006-07-09 14:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grieving is a lifelong process. you just can't be consumed by it. he has to face reality and keep living his life. the memory will always be there and you you can't fight a memory. has he tried grieve counseling? he might need to get a little professional help to push him in the right direction. but you also have to make your feelings known. don't keep all your feelings bottled up its not healthy. who knows it might be what he needs to hear.
2006-07-09 14:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not give someone a time limit on how long to grieve.
2006-07-09 14:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never gone through it, but my understanding is in the Jewish faith, it is a year and a day of mouning for a loved one. After that, you are enjoying it too much...
2006-07-09 14:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Geoduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time, everyone has their different pace when it comes 2 healing. Some longer than others.
2006-07-09 14:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋