We are very financially secure and have 2 kids right now, and I want about 4 more, is that too many?
2006-07-09 13:26:31 · 32 answers · asked by mama_of_2 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't think so as long as you can give them everything they need like attention, love, etc. I'm sure you can. Good Luck!
2006-07-09 13:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lizziedoddle B 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you can't feed and cloth them all and your patience is worn thin. It is up to you and your husband to decide when enough is enough. Children are not all about being financially secure, you have to be emotionally secure as well. You can have all the money in the world and still be a rotten parent and have emotionally scarred children.
Trust me you will know when to stop. If you a handicapped child that requires around the clock supervision and care, that could be the deciding factor. Just have your babies and don't worry about what society says is enough. Make yourselves and your children happy.
P.S. Be careful what you ask for. You might get all four at the same time...whoa! Good luck and God bless.
2006-07-09 13:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, apart from financial considerations, you would also need to think of whether you were patient enough.
I would also contend that there is a quality-quantity trade-off in that, the more kids you have the less love and care per kid, and probably less quality time too. Thus, it could be said that the higher the quantity of kids, the lower the possible quality of parenting.
Having said that, I have known families with 6 kids, all of them well brought up and successful.
At any rate, I would recommend you and your husband think it through carefully before taking a decision.
Since they usually only come one at a time, you could assess everytime you got a new kid, if you could do with one more.
As for me, I plan to have two kids :)
2006-07-09 13:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by barefoot_on_hot_coals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Financially, you should not have more kids than you can personally support without being a drag on society. Also, can you pay the college expenses for all six?
Emotionally, you should not have more kids than you can handle. The kids should not feel ignored or left out because of too much competition for your attention.
Finally, it seems a bit selfish to bring in so many children to the world when there are already so many kids up for adoption who need loving parents.
2006-07-09 13:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think that any more than two children is too many. You should only replace yourself and your husband on this planet - no more. If you can take care of a lot of kids, that's great, but as a general rule of thumb I think that two is enough. No offense, but maybe you should look into adoption? There are plenty of children already alive out there who need good, loving and secure homes.
2006-07-09 13:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so, My husband and I have the same amount brother and sister ( each 4 siblings ), I love it, I have my very best friends are my sisters. I can share and show the worst me to my sisters because They know me very well. We grew together. I always like a full house, I felt empty when they go out too long.
I would love to have 4 too ( I have two now ) If I didn't have money problems.
2006-07-09 13:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Divine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was gonna say 6 kids is when it starts to be too many. but if youre financially secure then it should be fine
2006-07-09 13:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by lunytunes_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently waiting for the births of my unborn twins, and they'll be #'s 6 & 7.
I'm the 8th of 9 children.
In my family, there have been recorded generations and generations of families that have as many as 23 grandchildren.
As long as you budget right, be a good parent, and are able to give enough attention to all of your children - I would say have as many as you can.
God only gives you what you can handle.
2006-07-09 16:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO but 9 is
2006-07-09 13:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the parents. For some people, 1 is too many.
2006-07-09 13:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Cora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 sounds like the perfect number for you then. Just keep at least a couple years between them so you can recover your ability to think :) I have three but I like the idea of 4 better, with my kids sometimes one is left out.
2006-07-09 13:32:38 · answer #11 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋