So I'm miserable in my relationship and instead of questioning it, i think it's time to lay everything out on the table. i've been throwing the idea around for a long time, i don't want to get hurt or disappointed anymore than i am, so i think that we have to break up. What i don't know is the best way to do it. I'm going to try and have a conversation with him about what i'm feeling but i think that ultimately it will lead to breaking up. Any thoughts?
2006-07-09 13:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by AmandaJanuary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to break up with him, but i hate the situation that i am in. He's moved back home to help his mom, but she's really taking advantage of him and has him busy doing stuff for her all the time around her house. for some reason he can't tell her no and it's really frustrating, because time he's supposed to be spending with me he spends doing errands for his mom. I like this guy and i Don't want to break up with him, but I don't want to feel like crap any more either. He told me that he loves me, but how can he love me and not want to spend time with me?. I know i sound really immature but i'm 26 I just haven't had a serious relationship before.
2006-07-09 13:34:44 · update #1
When you have this talk with him, make sure that you're open and honest about the way that you're feeling. Be very clear and forward and don't doubt yourself. I remember trying to tell a guy I was with that I did'nt want to be with him anymore but backed out at the last second.
Then I grew a back bone. I know you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings love but what's more important to you? Getting hurt and dissapointed by this dude or bruising his feelings for a minute.
You'll be ok. Just be strong and stand firm on your reasons why you want to break it off. You'll meet someone better in the furture. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-09 13:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no best way, except to move away and change your name. I think your misinterpreting your feelings, and making a mistake, which will hurt the guy. Although I'm in the market for a gf.
2006-07-09 13:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it..if you are unhappy in your relationship, be honest. Why stay with someone just for the sake of not hurting them? You have to do what's best for you..if you are not happy then you need to break up with them so you both can move on with your lives.
2006-07-09 13:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up, cold turkey, cut him off. Don't give him long explanations and reasons, he really doesn't want to know. Besides, if you give him a reason, he'll probably promise to change, and he wont, it will just drag on forever. And don't try "It's not you, it's me" - that only works on Seinfeld.
2006-07-09 13:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up with someone is so hard but the best thing to do is set the guy off easy be nice.
2006-07-09 13:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by mary_loves_christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means flatter him something awful; tell him how great he is and that you don't deserve him. You're letting him go find life is an adventure and he should get his share of it.
2006-07-09 13:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by dummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give your boyfriend the pedigree.
2006-07-09 13:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it the why you meet him and if it in person. if you feel like he will hit you do it around people. so you will be safe
2006-07-09 13:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by snackeed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on
2006-07-09 13:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by xbox3604life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him and be ready to leave and do your own thing
2006-07-09 13:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by melewis676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋