How do you tell a friend the love of their life is gay?

Question

I have a friend who is dating this guy and all she talks about is how much she loves him and how perfect he is, but for some reason she cannot see that he is GAY. He hits on my brother all the time, always comments on how hot guys are when we are hanging out checking out guys together, and when they have sex, he has her put her hair up in a baseball cap and will only do it doggie style. Now, I dont have any solid proof that he is gay, its just obvious to me and everyone else except her. She is a really sweet person and I dont want to see her get hurt so how do I tell her or even bring up the subject without getting her mad at me or thinking Im lying to her? Should I talk to him and try to get him to let her go without hurting her? Or should I just stay out of it and let him hurt and betray her?

Answer 1

Confront him, ask him if he is using her, so that he can stay in the closet. Tell him that if he is gay, or bisexual that is fine by you, but that he needs to cop to it with her. He owes her that much, for leading her on, and letting her fall in love with him.
Also, if he is sleeping with guys, then he really needs to tell her, so that she can decide whether she wants to risk disease by being with him.

Answer 2

OK sorry to burst your bubble, but he cannot be the love of your life. You are suffering from a pronounced case of unrequited love. You have endowed this relationship with emotions that simply are not there. Pretty gloomy picture huh ? Well no. You still have a best friend. You just need to row back on the sexual ambition with him. You mentioned that you suspected that he didn't feel the same towards you. Turns out you were right all along. So now keep the friendship. Is there a reason why he didn't want your parents to know ? You can resolve your predicament in one of two ways. You could either tell your parents that you got it all wrong and hope to cover your tracks like that, or you are going to have to come clean to him and let him know that whilst you were in a state of emotional turmoil, you told your parents about the cause. Apologise profusely and hope that he'll be OK wih it.

Answer 3

A real friend will appreciate your candor, I was dating a girl one time when I was down on my luck -- a friend pulled me aside and basically explained she was a gold digging slut.

That friend made my life what it is today, I found out later she was trying to get knocked up by somebody else so she could blame me.

If your friend is too stupid to appreciate the candor, get better friends.

Answer 4

Normally I would say stay out of it it's none of your business. But because of AIDS I think I would question her a bit to see if they use condoms each and every time. If she says yes I would stay out of it, but if she says no I think I would have to tell her.

Answer 5

if it's that obvious and she can't see it herself, she doesn't want to see it. you telling her something you have no *concrete* proof of will just make her angry. stay out of it. it has to come to light eventually.

Answer 6

Perhaps he's not gay afterall. Did you ever think he could be bisexual?

Answer 7

wellsz wat u kan do0o isz tell hym look ur doin sumethu=in wrong wit mah friend i dont wat to c her get hurt so0o if u gay cusz 2 mii it seems dat waii u shud let her noe now.................another way u can do0 it isz if he tellsz u look yes i'm gay and i'm nah gonna let ur friend now ...........den u should recored da conversation n den let ur friend hear it n telll her take it from dere ................good luck in everything hon !!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

if she don't know by now you telling her isn't gonna do any good she is in denial

Answer 9

tell her what you know by observation not what you have heard.

Answer 10

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