I am 18 years old and I just graduated from high school. I'm not allowed to watch TV on the weekdays, I can only be on the computer 2 hours each day, and my parents bought me a MacBook Pro for my graduation present but I have to PAY for half of it! I got good grades, all A's and B's. Do you think my mom is too strict? Oh, and I'm not allowed to drive anybody else but myself, even though I have been driving for almost 2 years without any tickets. And I STILL get out in timeout!
2006-07-09 13:12:50 · 17 answers · asked by csalm87 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i am a male! lol
2006-07-09 13:32:29 · update #1
Well, in my opinion yes, way too strict!
I raised my kids to be ready and able to be fully independent by age 17, so that they had a year as a minor to "practice" with no rules from me, just guidance as needed and/or wanted.
That's right, in my home, by your 17th birthday, all parental rules were gone, and I had no problems with it. Because I gave my kids increasing independence all through their growing up, and had few rules to begin with, they respected the ones I did have, and respected me for it.
You would have paid for half or more of the computer in my home too (and prolly had a cheaper puter), and you would be paying your own car insurance and fuel, and if it was my car you used, there would be rules and a curfew on it.
But, the thing is, it doesn't matter what I think, or what my rules were, these are YOUR parents, you live in their house, and as such, it is your responsibility and place in life to obey them.
I suggest you put together a list of a few things you would like to see change, no more than 2 or 3 to start, and how you would handle the responsibility, and ask for a chance to prove yourself.
Good luck!
2006-07-09 14:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She sounds too strict. It might be a good idea to talk to your parents calmly or move out and go to college.
If college isn't for you, and you have to live at home then you definately need to talk to them. What things are you doing around the house to show them you are an adult? Do you do your own laundry, help with meals, cleaning or yardwork without being asked? Are you working and do you make enough money to pay your parents some rent? If you choose to stay in their house it might be a good idea to create some ground rules with them regarding what you will do to contribute and to set boundaries...areas of your life they will not control like tv watching.
As for the MacBook...did they choose to get it for you on their own or was it a gift you insisted on. Because if it was solely their idea...then it bites that you have to pay half. But if it's a gift you insisted on, then it's more than fair for you to pay for some of it.
Remember that this transition time from teen to adult is not just difficult for you, but also your parents. It is probably hard for them to see the little boy grow up and your mom's strictness may be her subconcious attempt to keep you her cute little boy for as long as she can.
Good luck. Your parents will probably start treating you more like an adult when you prove you are ready.
2006-07-10 04:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by chickadiva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty strict... but I totally agree with you having to pay for part of the Mac notebook. Those can be very expensive... especially when you could have got a PC laptop for half the price!
The computer thing and the car thing is ridiculous, though.
Unfortunately, as long as you are under their roof, you should be expected to follow THEIR rules. If you are 18, consider trying to find a cheap apartment or a roommate outside of your parent's house.
2006-07-09 13:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by AeroMidwest82 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no they r not.ur parents r trying to raise u in a good way so u become a great person.i think they r great parents from what i read about them. maybe ur mom is lill strick about watching tv or being on the computer..plx dont say i want to leave the house cause of these silly things.cause parents worst millions ,and we cannt trade them for more time on the computer or tv. good luck and hope u become a successfull man one day.
2006-07-09 13:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by sasa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are nuts. Your a grown woman now. If you want to watch T.V. watch T.V. If you want to drive your friends drive them. And what is up with you having to pay for half of your graduation present. Go AWAY to college and experience life for yourself. I'm sorry that totally blows.
2006-07-09 13:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything about it is pretty insane. when i clicked on this i expected you to be a 13 yr old complaining about her bedtime being 9 o'clock. go to college, dorm n watch all the tv you want. tell your mom that you 18, a legal adult that if by law you're allowed to go to war and to vote and order from informercials, you can definetly watch tv on weekends. and i'm surprised your allowed to drive! she really loves you and cares about to but that is waaay to strict and she should know that you're not a whor3 and selling yourself, but a responsible young lady. tell her you find her rules as an insult.
2006-07-09 13:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by lunytunes_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman, what are you doing following these rules in the first place. Time to stand firm with mom and tell her you are a grown woman and will no longer be treated like a ten year old.
2006-07-10 01:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats CRAZY?! You have to pay for your GIFT?! Your 18 and cant watch TV nor drive anyone?! I say you move out because thats just way too harsh.
2006-07-09 13:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, they are not too strict.. I think you need discipline. (Thank 'em right now for setting you such a good example in life! Are they older? They won't be around forever, buddyboy. They just luv you, that's all..) later- melancholia (if anyone tells you any different, screw 'em! they don't know s**t, man..)
2006-07-09 15:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too strict! Are you going away to college? She's going to make it easy for you to want to move out on your own!
2006-07-09 13:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋