he's away for three months...?

Question

My boyfriend is working abroad in America for 3 months, I'm a little insecure...he e-mails me everyday so I know he must be thinking about me....

Just wanted to know if anyone has ever had this arrangement and how they coped with it and if their relationship survived?

we've been living together for 10months at university.

we've been living together for 10months at university.

Answer 1

If you have trust, no worries....If you dont have trust, you need to worry..........

Answer 2

I have the same situation, my boyfriend is away for a year... it has only been 1 month. In my case I have taken a little time of to be with my friends, and do some things that you can't do with your boyfriend.
You can not control if the relationship is going to work or not, but you can sure try, 3 months will go by so fast, send him e mails telling him the normal things you will do if he were with you, call him and search your feelings if you love him you will resist and you can only hope that he does to, sending you emails every day is a great sign... I know me and my boyfriend are doing good and he doesn't even do that =)
Don't worry and live your life....

Answer 3

Of course he will be thinking about you. . . My boyfriend is Australian and I am American. We live together in Australia and have done for nearly three years. He works a lot though and sometimes I go back to the US to visit without him, last year I stayed there for nearly four months as I needed to help with my grandma. It's hard to be apart and wondering if that person is possibly having more fun than you, or wondering if they miss you. But if he emails you every day, well that's pretty sure fire sign that he does miss you. We emailed as often as we could and spoke on the phone, and once I was back in his arms it was so easy to remember how there was no reason to be insecure the first place.
While you are apart you should take the opportunity to do some of the things that he wouldn't want to do with you like watching a good play or something and get back into some of the things you've stopped doing since you've been him, which for me was going to drum circle. Enjoy your time apart as it has to be, why not embrace it, it is a rare chance to assess and improve yourself and your relationship as u can see things more objectively when you're not so involved.
pamper yourself, enjoy your friends, do something you've been dying to do, and the time will fly by.

Answer 4

Siany how old are you? Anyway if he is only away for three months and he is coming back then you have to trust him. What do you think that he is going to go whore it up at the local bar or pub. Real long standing relationships are built on trust and love. If you love him and he loves you don't worry about it. It is alright to miss him and be sad but to feel insecure is just stupid unless he gives you a reason to feel insecure. You should tell him how you feel and I am sure that he will reassure you. Like I said though this all goes out the window if he is a jerk and has a history of shady behavior

Answer 5

A lot depends on how old you are, how deep your relationship is, and whether you are both committed to each other. You have a lot of control over whether it lasts or not. If you don't see other boys, that will help. It's a good test of how loyal he is to you. My husband has been away that long, and it was OK because we trust each other completely and we have never betrayed each other. It's hard, but not impossible. If you two are emailing daily, you can build your relationship by email. Lots of people built their relationships with letters to each other, and sometimes it would take a long time for a letter to arrive. And some women were married to sailors who would be gone for months at a time, but they had a good marriage and lots of kids. We're used to instant gratification these days, and that doesn't help. So it depends largely on how deep and committed your relationship is.

Answer 6

It's seems as though I always date guys who travel for business and I have actually had a long distance relationship once. Of course you always get paranoid when your loved one is far from you but if you both have a solid relationship and have built a strong trust unit together then I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. Make sure he e-mails you often and phones you when he can. It's only 3 months. If he does betray you, you'd be able to tell when he gets back. Women's intuition.

Answer 7

well, my bf of 9 months has been gone for bout a month now and will be gone for a total of 2 months, we take turns calling eachother everyday and everything seems to be fine

i guess it depends on how long/strong ur relationship is, if he is taking the time to email you im sure he is thinkin of you and cares about you

if u do feel like he might cheat (im guessing thats why ur insecure) talk to him and let him know that even though you trust him, you cant help but worry, im sure he'll understand and reassure you

pass the time by hanging out ith ur girlfriends or pampering urself

just have some faith in ur man

Answer 8

my girlfriend is in argentina right now im in sweden, shell be away for a total of 5 weeks...l its less then 3 months but is still tough... i dont even doubt for a second that the relationship will survive, its just a temporary separation. look forward to the day youll meet again... my mind is already on 5th of august....

Answer 9

well i had this type of thing with my dad about 3 years ago. he worked out of town for months at a time and i would only see him once a month if that. the thing that helped meget through it was just talking about he way i felt. i know it might hurt to talk about it but in the long run it really helps.

here's my email if you want to talk about it

Answer 10

I coped with it by sleeping with a different girl every night. Try that.

Answer 11

If you have a deep relationship to your boyfriend, then you shouldn't worry. If you don't, then, this will prove if he is, or isn't the one for you. It's simple.