If you acknoledge your siblings and their families birthdays, but they don't acknowledge yours, what do you do

Question

By acknowledging, I mean a phone call, letter or them doing something nice for you.

Answer 1

Dont do it anymore.....

Answer 2

There is no easy way to say this, so I'm just going to be blunt. To wish your loved ones a Happy Birthday is not an act that should come with stipulations. If you are merely wishing them well in order to have them reciprocate, you are not being sincere.
On the other hand, of course it is nice when they DO remember your birthday and those of your family. If it bothers you a lot, just come straight out with it. Tell them that it may not seem like a big deal to them, but it hurts your feelings when they seem to forget your special day. It's easy to get bogged down in your own daily life and all that goes with that, so try to remember that they probably arent deliberately forgetting you, they just have a lot on their plates. I'm sure that if they knew how much it bothers you, they would make an effort to show you that they DO care.
Good luck and Happy Birthday when it comes! : )

Answer 3

Been there, done that. After 18 years of trying to have a relationship with my disfunctional family I finally gave up. I don't need the headache nor the heartache. I'm a better person for knowing that I gave it my all and that it's their loss. You know when we get older we believe that our families will come around eventually but that's not always the case. Keep your spirits up and walk with pride you tried and they failed. Good Luck.....

Answer 4

Nothing. You can't control other people and make them do what you want. You can only send cards expecting nothing in return or don't send cards expecting nothing in return. You can send them a letter 2 weeks in advance of your birthday saying you can't believe you're going to be nnn years old as a reminder.

Answer 5

Hmmm... I see the same sort of thing in my family alot. What I would do, is buy myself something expensive that they will have no choice but to ask, "Where did you get it?" or something simular. Then I'd reply, "Oh, so and so (a friend they don't know?) got it for me for my birthbay x-amount of days\weeks ago." It'll make them feel guilty and perpaps they would concider remembering your birthday next time...

Answer 6

You know, I used to buy presents for my siblings for all holidays and birthdays, bu t then when they hit 18 and had jobs and were not buying me even a card for my birthday I quit getting them presents. I still call them on their birthdays though and wish them a happy birthday.

best of luck!

Answer 7

One of my sisters was that way. I sent her daughter gifts and cards for the holidays and her birthday and cards to her and she never sent even a card to me or my kids or called so I stopped. She never said anything and that was 16 years ago. The other sister and I have continued to exchange cards and gifts. So my advice is to stop. Save your time and money.

Answer 8

I know how you feel I have a brother who doesn't even remember my birthday but gets mad if I don't get him something(I do call and wish him a happy b-day). So one time I purposely forgot his and when he got mad I told him he was stuck on himself and that the world didn't revolve around him, lately now he actually calls on my birthday.

Answer 9

You do it because you love them. Never give anyting with the expectation of something in return.

When you least expect it, good things will come back to you.
I speak from experience.

So keep on showing them how much they mean to you.

Answer 10

This is what you can do, Go to bed and wake up knowing that you're a better person than they are. You have a real beautiful side of life most don't and be proud of it. I'm proud of you !!!
Don't change for anyone, Good luck !!!

Answer 11

Send a card in te mail. Nothing more, nothing less.

You don't even have to write a personalized note. Just sign your name.