There's this guy that I like, would like to date &I told him so. But since he just got out of a bad relationship(about 3 weeks back)he said he's not ready to get into another one right now n needs some space and time. I said ok..i'd wait. After that I have been just a friend to him and been really nice and understanding with him. Today, I showed him some pics of my friends and he looked interested in 2 of them. I asked him if he would like me to find out if they are single (dont know why I said that).. he suddenly got really excited and said yes! and asked me to get their phone numbers too. Now I feel really bad. he says he's not ready to get into anything now and then he gets all excited and eager with these girls. The least he can do for me is say no to me and then ask me for my friends' details... right? Also, over the past few days, I've noticed he looks at me 4 longer time and his voice is sometimes softer when he talks to me. What's happening?? Please help.PS: I'm 25 n he's 30
2006-07-09 12:35:47 · 21 answers · asked by Orchid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Recently, he has been more free with me too.. like he touches me on my shoulder and back and once he grabbed my waist and tickled me (dont know if he was doing that playfully or was just looking for a way to touch me there). Sometimes he shares stuff about himself with me. Why is he flirting with me(knowing my feelings for him), and then instantly getting interested in someone he doesnt even know? He has gotten out of relationships coz he was being two-timed, and lied to. He hates that. I have been absolutely honest and open with him. I least expected this from him. Why is he doing this to me? ..despite how much he values honesty and trustworthyness.
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2006-07-09 12:36:05 · update #1
i dont really understand what you're asking. Maybe he's just lookin for some booty and would rather it be with your friends than with you b/c you are more of a relationship-type person and he knows it.
2006-07-09 12:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm male, 42. He is confused (and probably still hurting). Let him have his space and take your time.
You don't want to hook up with him until he's sorted things out. If you do, it will end in a breakup. Just be his friend, if he wants you then it will happen. He knows you like him, don't rush it.
Have you ever cornered a hurt animal? You know how they react? Humans are not animals, but sometimes men can seem like it...
Let him heal.
Just be his friend -- tell him you're there if he needs you, but no sex until you've been dating a while. If he tries to get you into bed in the near future, he may just be seeking a release from the tension, it won't be out of true love for you. That' a call you have to make on your own, no one out here can do it for you. Exercise judgement.
It sucks but that is the only way.
2006-07-09 12:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by kevrob8008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...well...it's pretty clear that you like him alot, and want to be with him. I can't say the same for him. He just got out of a bad relationship, right? From what I've seen, some guys who are hurting tend to be open and loose. Meaning that this guy is playing the field. He may like you, and flirt with you, but I don't think he really wants to be with you. The fact that he wants to get to know two of your friends kinda backs up my suspicion of him. I say just be friendly, but watch him and how he acts towards your two friends and other girls. Oh yea, I'm 20 years old. :-P
2006-07-09 12:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that must be very hard to deal with, if he is interested in your friends. What I think is that he is looking for something that is NOT serious - and that is why he is interested in your friends, and not you... maybe he wants to save you for when he is ready to have a serious relationship. If you guys are meant to be then, just be there for him, be honest with him, be yourself, and he will eventually come around and see that you are the one he wants to be in a serious relationship with. If you really care about him, you care about what makes him happy. Just stick by him, and he will he will see who you really are and appreciate what he has had the whole time. respect his decision to not get into a relationship now. if you push it, it will not work! give it time, and you guys will be fine... it sounds like he really respects you and cares a lot about you... good luck! =)
2006-07-09 12:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's A Skank,Make a New Plan I'm 45, Ask Him He's Probably Got A Friend For You?
2006-07-09 12:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay he might just be doing all that tickling things to use you, babe, cause it sounds to me that he just wants to maybe get some friends from you and drop you there crying...what you can do is just talk to him and if he tries to tickle u, then move away saying" srry, but if you arent ready then we should STAY friends..." if he sees ur not being all interested this will pick his interest and he might start to like u OR get the numbers of ur friends and LEAVE either way GOOD LUCK BABE!!!
2006-07-09 12:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were dumb to suggest you set the guy you like up on a date with your friends. Do yourself a favor and tell him later your friends are involved with other people even if they aren't. You don't want to set yourself up for that sort of pain do you??? All you can do is continue to be patient. If he is into you, you'll find out soon enough.
2006-07-09 12:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 07:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just wants you as a good friend. But who really knows....ask him again...men are so hard to read by their actions...give it another shot...what do you have to lose?
2006-07-10 08:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wants to be buddies. If he acts that interested in YOUR friends in front of you, then he must not be interested in you. Don't get your heart mixed up in this.
2006-07-09 12:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jaime L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋