Am I afraid?

Question

Whenever I like a guy I sleep with him and then i lose interest. Does that mean I am afraid of a real relationship?

Answer 1

girl, i used to do the same thing. notice i said, used to. The reason why you lose interest is because they are no longer a challenge. you are not afraid of a relationship, you are just going about it the wrong way. the whole fun of a relationship is building to that point. you dont want guys that are easy either, always wondering if they are gonna keep it in their pants when a fresh peice of meat comes around.

Answer 2

In fact, yes. But you're not sabotaging yourself by sleeping with the guys too early, you're sabotaging yourself be going out with the wrong kind of guys. If you want a real relationship, join groups that interest you, take a night class, volunteer at the ambulance corps. You'll meet guys who have similar interests as you and you'll get to know them before you go out. Then, you won't just be picking up boring eye-candy who are good only for some fun and not for a conversation.

Try it out. And write yourself a no-sex lpedge. At least until the fourth date.

Answer 3

Well ... it makes you wonder what you like about the guy.

If you think you want to spend the rest of your life with him, you sleep with
him, and then he loses all appeal, you either have no ability to initially
judge the guy or you're sabotaging the process.

I suggest that when you find a guy you like, don't sleep with him for
awhile. See if your attitude towards him changes or not. If it changes,
then you have not slept with someone you ultimately weren't
interested in and all is well.

If your attitude does not change, then you need to decide whether
nor not to sleep with him based on the possibility that it may change
the relationship - and you're in the same boat with the rest of us.

If you're able to control whether or not to sleep with him and there is
any question, don't sleep with him - it isn't something you can "undo".

If you aren't able to control it, you may be experiencing sexual addiction
(similar to substance abuse) and you should talk to an appropriate
doctor.

Answer 4

Sometimes it happen if you were affected from a past relationship with someone close or you were abuse by your own family or others. I'm not sure if this is right for you. But my older sister have the same problem. She slept with every guys she wants. She asked the same question too. I'm sure you are not ready for the right guy in your life.

Answer 5

Maybe.... I feel pretty similar. I think it may have to do with the challenge as well. I loose interest really quickly. I like a specific kind of guy and they end up to be really bad! I wish I could just like a nice guy! ughhh

Answer 6

I THINK THAT IS MOST DEFINITELY THE CASE. YOU SLEEP WITH A GUY JUST TO LOSE INTEREST. YOU MUST HAVE BEEN HURT BEFORE B/C YOU'RE AFRRAID TO BE IN A REAL RELATIONSHIP. AND NOT ONLY ARE YOU AFRAID TO LOVE BUT YOU ARE CAUSING DAMAGE TO YOURSELF.

Answer 7

Possibly. Perhaps you 're afraid of committment, but like one night /one time stands. But you really should committ to a guy, some time. Not to, is just irresponsible. Whenever you have that feeling of losing intrest, just mentally argue with and fight it. Tell yourself, that you want more of what you just got from him.

Answer 8

I am not trying to pick on you, but it sounds to me like you better consider seeking some counseling. that is not normal behavior. It's going to catch up with you eventually and you are going to have a lot of heartache and maybe even a bad name.

Answer 9

Try not sleeping with one once and see

Answer 10

Sounds like your experimenting. You'll find the right guy.
Please be careful of STD's.