Ok, this guy and I went to church together and he lives in another state right now but he's suppose to be moving back in a few months. We like each other and want to be together but he says things that make me wonder if he really does like me. He'll say "yeah, i'm still workin at.....i hate it, but there's a lot of hot girls that come in" and i'm just like.."ok are you trying to make me mad?" and he says "no, i dont hit on them or anything, none of them are as pretty as you" but i highly doubt that he doesn't flirt with them. he says he really likes me and wants to be with me, but we dont want to date until he moves back dwon here. Which is totally fine with me. He'll tell me to call him, but he never calls me back...I dont understand. He works all the time but, I'm just confused. HELP!
2006-07-09 12:08:56 · 38 answers · asked by chickscanplaythedrums2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bad player
2006-07-09 12:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what he says but how he says it. What is more important is the meaning. Sometimes men will say things poorly. We don't think before we speak a lot of time. However some guys are jerks and are playing you. For some reason this has become the new cool. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him. If he cannot convince you that he is truthful, then may he is not be. Do not confront him with hostility. If you cornor him and make him be on the defensive, then he will do something stupid and he will be gone. Men do not like to be cornored.
If it scares him away, then when when troubles come up in your relationship he will run then too, and you may not want that kind of guy in your life anyways.
2006-07-09 12:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good observer, and you already figured it out. You are having a chance of getting played. I will not call a guy if he doesn't call me, in fact, I'm the one who does not call so often because my thing is that if he wants to see me he will call me....
The statements he made are a sign of his own insecurity. I don't doubt that he likes you and would like to date you, but I do believe that he also would like to continue with his life as he has it. Since the wait is not too long(until he is supposed to move), and since you decided not to start dating until he moved to your area, I would say leave it as is. Time will tell what he is about. In the meantime you are not giving up your chances on meeting nice people while he is still up there....Good Luck
2006-07-09 12:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well First off maybe he is just busy I would just give it time and see if he still doesnt call you or you get actual proof he has been hitting on other girls and although the line "none of the is as pretty as you" Is really cheesy it doesnt mean he doesnt like you so i would say wait till he moves to where you live dont date right away and see for yourself how he acts around your friends and other girls.
2006-07-09 12:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would have to say that he must like you, and is looking for a reaction to what he is saying, and he is getting one, so he will keep doing it,
so what i would do is bite my tongue and say oh yeah, and change the subject, then casually slip in that you were approached by a really really hot guy and even though he was hot, you were still thinking of him, then change the subject.
that might get him to understand how you are feeling every time he says things to hurt your feelings, and if he gets up set, say, oh i thought we had an open and honest relationship, and you just wanted to be honest, (even though it is a white lie) and tell him that you were wrong and that you appreciate it when he is honest with you, (when he tells you about the ugly hot girls lol)
this will get him understand how you feel, and maybe make him want to move quicker.
2006-07-09 12:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sitting here with my mother and she said you are being PLAYED...................Dude is just holding on to you until he decides what he wants to do. Look at it this way, if dude finds another girl at that spot where he works at that's prettier then you he's out of there. Tell dude to get with you when he gets back in the area. He seems like he can't be honest in the long distant relationship thing. Not everybody is strong enough for that type of commitment....Peace & Good Luck. ....(Loyalty)...devotion & dedication. Have him look it up.
2006-07-09 12:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Needs Help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you, but doesn't want to commit just yet. This might lead someplace once he gets back into town, but I don't recommend that you wait for him. Have fun, meet other guys, and don't worry about him too much for now. If he doesn't call you back, stop calling as frequently -- let him show some more interest first.
2006-07-09 12:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mary F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like this guy is too immature for a real relationship. He sounds unable to settle down at this point in his life. He must be kinda young.. *under 25*
I would stop calling him all together, and see if he bothers to call you back. This will let you know if he REALLY cares about you.
2006-07-09 12:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we see things that we want to see, but that are not really there. There is a good book you should consider buying that is called, "He's not that into you." Search for it on Amazon.com
It basically tells you the obvious. If a guy tells you he is going to call you, but he doesn't, then he does not really care about you.
2006-07-09 12:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by tiravellian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys say stuff like that for who knows why-they're guys....I would show no emotion or say anything when he says crap like that. If you chose not to ignore his smart remarks then tell him you go clubbing with friends or maybe even not call him and see if he calls you. If he asks why you haven't called say "I've been busy, sorry." That will tick him off. Good Luck.
2006-07-09 12:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen /Tamari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋