i m a 19 yr old girl
i have no bf or even a male friend
becoz of which i feel i have no idea of a boyz mindset
i realy find it hard to even communicate with them
all this has been so horrible that no guy ever try to hv an eye contact with me...
plz help its being really affectng my confidence!!!
2006-07-09 12:02:56 · 17 answers · asked by i_m_a_sensitive_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are just fine. Do not base your confidence on the attention of men. This is the _bullshit that your society teaches you.
"You are nothing if you do not have the attention of men."
Bollocks! Is what I say.
So what if they do not look at you. This is not the end of the world. You think your life is hell? Look around you, at those who are more unfortunate than yourself:
Look at the Sudanese woman who is unable to feed her child who is starving to death because if she tries to, rebel militants will kill her. Her life is hell... not yours.
Why do you HAVE to have a male friend? Email me, and answer me this. Okay?
Thanks:)
2006-07-09 12:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you are gonna get confidence is by doing. Dress up nice, make some eye contact, talk some guys up. Just ask what their likes and dislikes are. What music or movies they like. It is hard to do this when you are shy. Writing and talking on the computer took some confidence so you are on your way. Hang in there and Good Luck.
2006-07-09 12:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by RussellMania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about the fact that boys might be wondering about our mindset? It is a matter of how you communicate with people in general that will help you to communicate with boys. So why not start to evaluate how you communicate with your peers and family?
In general, when you talk to someone and you do not understand the question, all you have to do is repeat what was said to you as a question back to them to clarify....for example, a boy is asking you this: you wanna go to a movie? You are not sure if this is an invitation to go out with him, then repeat this back: are you asking me to go to a movie with you? This way you can avoid misunderstandings and miscommunication and will get a clearer picture of how they think......Good Luck
2006-07-09 12:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a guy to have self confidence. You need to build up your self esteem. Invest your life in other people (at school, at work, at church, in your community) and you will have payback.
A guys mindset can be learned by asking open ended questions and commenting on anything of mutual interest. Guys like to be validated in their thoughts, ideas, and dreams.
Don't worry about their looking at you. . . they are. They just aren't letting you know about it due to their lack of self confidence as well. Guys HATE rejection.
2006-07-09 12:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, I wonder why? No guys, ever tried to have eye contact with you? I would suggest that you pose this questions to someone who you are comfortable with such as a family member or a close friend. someone who knows you well ( as this puts you in a very vulnerable position). And you try to figure out why.
2006-07-09 12:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men shouldn't affect your confidence. guys are people. or at least pretty close to being people. talk to them like you would anyone else. as for knowing their mindset, that is something a female will never understand or even begin to comprehend. take everything they say with a grain of salt and always keep in mind that if a guy is being too nice or affectionate, he probably just want in your pants. and letting him in doesn't mean you love him. it means you fell for his line of crap. if he loves you, he won't push you into anything you aren't ready for.
2006-07-09 12:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up self esteem in the dictionary. Then hug yourself, then pat yourself on the back and put a smile on your face. When we all get out of bed in the morning it is up to us to decide if it will be a good or bad day. When people see you happy and full of self esteem they will want to be with you.
2006-07-09 12:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Cipro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think women will ever figure a man out!that comes from 45 years of experience,just lighten up and look at them as your friends!My best friends are guys!They listen and are there for you once you let someone in!!
2006-07-09 12:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking first on net its one way to learn about men although if you ask women about men you will get some interesting answers i am gay so it doesn't affect me but chin up girly if the right one is out there he will come and you will be comfortable around him he will understand u and make u feel like a queen
2006-07-09 12:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have a hard time talking to guys. once you figure that out it will be easier. Maybe see a councelor for some help.
2006-07-09 12:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by jolees56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋