I'm a virgin who is thinking about having sex for the first time ... the guy is kind of nervous about it too as he's never had sex with a virgin before. Neither one of us really know what to expect. I mean, I've done some things by myself before, but I think it's going to be different when it's "real"....at least I am hoping so!!
Will it hurt? Is it possible that I could have an orgasm the first time?
2006-07-09 11:48:29 · 23 answers · asked by Ciera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You all might like to know that I am a 29 year old virgin and not a teenager. I know the risks of pregnancy and STD's and plan on protection.
2006-07-09 12:00:10 · update #1
You might experience some discomfort and a little bleeding--and that does not last long. Tell your guy to be gentle and tell him not to go about getting it too fast. There is no need to be nervous about it at all. Just don't panic when you see a little blood on the sheets.
Also, let me remind you to use protection. Even though myth has it that you cannot get pregnant the first time around -- that's a myth. YOU CAN GET PREGNANT THE FIRST TIME AROUND, so make sure that won't happen.
there is no proscribed way to handle the first time, but if he is gentle and you both consent, then it really is only a moment of discomfort and nothing else---and I hear that some women did not even get that discomfort.....Good Luck
2006-07-09 11:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How intimate are you and this guy already? Do you do mutual masturbation (3rd base) or oral sex? If you're nervous about losing your virginity and haven't explored the non-intercourse aspects of sex, do that first. It will get you guys familiar with each other's bodies so that they seem a little less alien! Plus, things like fingering or using toys can help stretch you out a little so that it will hurt less when his penis is in you. Just take all the time you need, take your time, and use lots of lube.
A lot of women can't orgasm through intercourse alone, first time or not, so don't feel bad if you don't have one. Also (and I love this quote) "sex is not soccer; the use of hands is allowed." So don't feel like you should or must orgasm *only* from his penis.
2006-07-09 18:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you wait until you get married before you have sex. The bible commands for people to wait. It is totally better, if you wait until you have sex on your wedding night. I tell you, it will be very special if you waited.
Do not give up your virginity easy. Just remember, you can not get it back and sometimes it can ruin your relationship. You don't have to worry about STD's and becoming pregnant if you wait.
I know this is not what you wanted to hear, but I just wanted to give you something to think about before you did it. Sex today is way overrated. I mean it's wonderful, but it's more special if it's within a marriage.
Take care and I hope this helps!
2006-07-09 18:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to make sure he takes it slow. yall need to spend some time in the fore play so that your body is "ready" if you know what i mean. U have to get a feel for what you like. Orgasms can occur the first time, they can even occur without actual penetration. a good suggestion would be oral sex first, or just lots of foreplay. yes, it will hurt a little, as you r not used to the "real deal" but it only lasts for a minute just try and focus on the way it feels, and itll be fine.
2006-07-09 18:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by rednecksurfer_roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your boyfriend is smart, it is entirely possible for you to have and orgasm your first time. It may hurt but not for long. Lots of foreplay is a good idea. Perhaps some wine to take away some of your nervous energy. Take your time and make every moment feel breathless.
And don't forget a condom or two. :)
2006-07-09 18:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he never had sex with a Virgin before ! have him get tested and best of all listen to your gut instincts inside of you, if for what ever reason you feel that things are not right.
Don't have sex with him and take your time. Arm your self with knowledge about sex and most important Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Get information about sex from your family clinic if such is possible in your neck of the woods.
2006-07-09 18:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it girl! Save yourself for marriage!
People today are pressured into having sex. Be different, stand out against the crowd, be unique, and strong-minded and willed.
People admire those who raise the bar and those who do not follow in societal trends and pressures.
Wait till you are married. Trust me on this. Most women wish they had waited, and most will NEVER admit their regret because that is how they save face. Instead they try to get other girls to lose their virginity too, cause it makes them feel better about their own regrets of having lost it.
Don't do it:-)
2006-07-09 18:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would wait until I was married. What if the guy leaves you? that will leave you with an extremely broken heart and you will feel pretty foolish and cheated.
Yes, it will hurt the first time around. Yes, you can have an orgasm during your first time.
My recommendation to you is to use plenty of lubricant during your first few times.
2006-07-09 18:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax as best as you can and just expierment with him..It can hurt your first time unless you have been working the vib and you might not hurt at all..It is possible to have an orgasm the first time but dont be upset if you dont...you have to learn what you like and what feels good and go from there...
2006-07-09 18:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by SingleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not worth doing unless you are married. There is the risk of pregnancy. And the risk that the guy could just only be wanting to be with you to say he took your virginity. Be careful!
2006-07-09 18:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by jendr2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋