My baby's father is white ...I'm not sure how my dad is going to take everything all in. I already have a little boy who will be 2 in November. Will he treat his younger sibling differently because they dont look anything alike? The guy that I am pregnant by, we just recently started dating. He works as a railroad conductor.He will never be home to help me through any of this!.
2006-07-09 11:42:53 · 22 answers · asked by Dazed and cONFUSED 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
um...I definitely dont live at home for whoever it was that asked that question and I was married to my first child's father.
2006-07-09 12:02:24 · update #1
You should sit down and talk to your parents about it. Whether they like it or not the baby isnt their responsibility. You should be the one to determine who you are with not them. Dont worry about what peolpe say because in the end you are the only one who can make decisions for you. As for your son, talk to him and tell him he may have a brother or sister. All children are different and they all react to situations differently as well. No two kids look alike unless they're twins even still there are different things about them that give them their own look. There are even class that you and your son can go to and there for children who are excepting to have a sibling. The classes are meant to help the child cope with another baby being around. You should ask your doctor about it. I dont know what to tell you about the guy that you're dating. His job causes him to be away most of the time. The only thing you can do is talk to him and see if he can rearrange his work schedule so that he wont be away so much. That way he can help take care of the baby more. I hope everything works out for you. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-09 12:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your already pregnant so the baby being biracial they need to get over. Who cares the main concern should be that the baby is healthy. The two year old will not trea his younger sibling differently just because he looks different, just make sure you teach them they are siblings and they should love each other. Don't even make race a issue or it will be. A child is pure and innocent they don't hate unless you teach them to. The guy may find a new job or something if he really cares if not Oh well don't get all depressed about it you will make it through, but in the future use protection to avoid all of this. Good luck :)
2006-07-09 18:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by hopefull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My siblings and I all have different dads and we are all different races. We create each other a lot better then most of the kids I know treat their siblings. My sis and I are four years apart. My bro and I are ten years apart. I am black, white, and mexican. My sis is black, white, and pueto rican. My bro is black and white. We all look totally different. I am the oldest and whitest. My bro is the youngest and darkest. No one ever thinks we are siblings when they first meet us, but they can tell after talking to use. Your kids will love each other just as much as they would if they had the same parents and same races. The only thing that might happen is the younger might feel like be does not fit in the family because he might lighter, but that is easily fixed with the whole family pointing out how they are different from every one else. That happened to my brother, because one time he was wrestling with a cousin and he saw in the tv that they were different colors, but we all told about how we are different and now he is totally cool with being different.
2006-07-09 22:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by zorroinmybed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ignore all the idiots above me. Its really easy to type that you shouldnt have gotten pregnant in the first place. Second, youre hardly the first person to have a biracial child. Hopefully any racists will get over it quickly and if they dont, theyre only hurting themselves not you. Racism is so yesterday!
You start counting a pregnancy with the first day of your last period so I am guessing youre actually 7 weeks pregnant. If you decide not to have the child for whatever reason, you need to make that decision soon. Talk it over with the father, you may be suprised at his and your families reactions.
2006-07-09 19:16:12 · answer #4 · answered by vacca33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do now! I'm sure your little boy will be fine with the fact that his little sibling will not look like him! Although, it may be more of a problem for him just having a sibling! Some children are just like that! You'll just have to help him adjust to the fact of having a little sibling! As for your parents...I don't know what to tell you! If they don't accept your new child, then I guess it's their loss! Anyway...congrats on the new baby and good luck with everything...I hope everything works out for you!!
2006-07-09 18:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids will get along just fine because children aren't racist, they have to be taught to be. Don't think of it as a big deal and it won't be. Your Father just has to understand why you chose your boyfriend and what you love about him. You already have a child, and the new baby shouldn't be treated any different than your first baby. If you think that he will be, you need to protect your child from the emotional damage that will occur if he is treated as less of a person than his sibling, even if that means staying away from your parents. You can do it, good luck and God bless.
2006-07-09 18:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him its a new millenium all races are the same any more and eventualy theres only gunna be one race anyway and that race is going to be a mix of like every race in the world so just tell him your child is the start of a great future for man kind or sumpthin. and your other son wont treat him differently there siblings and sibling gotta stick together in fact the older of the two will probly beat a few people up in school for saying stuff about that to the younger thats what my older brother did and he came out dark black and im mexiwhite. things should be cool
2006-07-09 18:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant help but wonder ???why are you just having babies without giving serious thought about their future and stop being selfish. You just started dating this guy and you are pregnant. Did you not think of taking precautions whilst you were having your fun. I am concerned about your kids lives here. Probably the two kids will have to grow up without their fathers. I have the feeling you are also still living at home. You need some serious counselling for the sake of those kids.
2006-07-09 18:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woe, woe, woe... first of all, are you imaging all of these bad feelings toward your unborn baby or are they true? Take one step at a time, your parents may not love the idea of the situation but no matter what color, they are having another grandchild. They will love the Baby no matter what. About your son, he will love his brother or sister no matter what, children are innocent and will see Mommy loving the baby so that's how he will be. You need to stop worrying so much about all of these negative thoughts and be sooo thankful for the blessing you have. So many people want Babies and cant have them. You need to tell your boyfriend that its important that he is there for you. Don't let him not be there.
Good luck with everything.......
2006-07-09 18:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by kctruckdeals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it's possible to really know that you're pregnant at three weeks. But a better question to ask yourself is why would you put yourself in this situation in the first place (meaning, why would you risk getting pregnant with a guy you just started dating?? (Most of us are over the bi-racial thing; it's no big deal)
2006-07-09 18:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋