My son's father takes a somewhat active role in his life even though we are no longer together. I have just started dating someone whom I think could become a significant part of my life and I would like to know if and when I should tell my son's father about this person.
2006-07-09 11:31:57 · 15 answers · asked by tormyra2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
None of his business, unless you want to tell him.
2006-07-09 11:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son's father is on a friendly term with you and you two communicate regularly then it would be even better for you to tell him. He is your son's father, and your relationship would effect your son so he does have the right to know. You don't have to schedule a meeting or a phone call to specifically tell him about this. And only tell him if you are sure this relationship could turn into something permanent. You could tell him in passing... "I'm busy on Saturday, I have work, I have to shop for grocery and I have a date that night too." And if he would want to know more details then tell him. But don't forget to tell him that you are still 120% committed to your son's life and that neither of you should feel uncomfortable about this.
2006-07-09 12:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mercii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm what none of his business this man takes an active role in his son's life and his possible stepfather is none of his business what are you talking about
find a time when you know it is serious and tell him but until it is serious IE the b/f is moving in or marriage is seriously being discussed the nunya's are right but if all your dates and spending time together includes your son then tell him asap because your son if talking will tell on you anyway kids have a way of letting cats out of bags
2006-07-09 11:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by cowboylogic26282 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this man is gonn also be in your son's life i would tell your son's father soon, very soon. the father should know who is around his son. Now the father can hate the guy all he wants, but the fact of the matter is he doesnt have a say as to who you are moving on with. He should know though that you are dating someone at the moment.
2006-07-09 11:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you tell him? He will find out on his own and if he has a problem with it let him come to you. Then you can tell him that it's none of his concern. He's not part of your life anymore just a part of your sons. As long as the new man in your life treats your son with respect then your ex shouldn't have a problem.
2006-07-09 11:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have less problems that could arise from not saying anything at all...I think you should tell him as soon as possible in his face and not on the phone...Because I know he will have some input on this because you still have his son...But if you want to date this other man do not let him or anyone stop you....And have fun....
2006-07-09 11:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkcitypimp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, It's not his business, second, if you guys get along and you know that he has completely moved on and have no feelings for you , then let them meet, MAN TO MAN, let them handle that. Usuaully we (women) can complicate things and if the dad is that active in your sons life then he would understand that you are moving on and that is a good thing. It never hurts for the two to get along for the child.
The child needs to see that everyone can get along and things are cool.
2006-07-09 11:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by !@#$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to tell him? I don't get it? What does your relationship have to do with this man?
Are you asking permission?
Are you bragging?
I wouldn't take this man around my child, anyway, until we had been together for at least a year. Be a mother first, and keep the man separate. Don't "think", "act"-like a responsible adult.
2006-07-09 11:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's none of his business who you are dating --- don't involve the guy in your son's life until you guys have been dating for more than six months --- a year if you suspect he's holding anything back.
2006-07-09 11:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell him but, I'm sure he will find out that you are dating someone sooner or later. If you want to tell him just tell him that you are dating someone. If your not together, he shouldn't care.
2006-07-09 11:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋