We dated for two years with a couple breakups in between. We broke up a couple months ago and still talk almost every day, however I am thinking about cutting off communication due to the fact that I am depressed about not being with her. I think I want her back, but I know she is not in that place right now. I struggle between keeping myself in her life to some degree (so she doesn't forget about me), which includes buying her a b'day present, and just getting out of it. Sadly I think she may be the one and I basically let her go.
2006-07-09 11:22:46 · 25 answers · asked by JD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She knows how I feel, but she does not believe me and is not in that place right now.
2006-07-09 11:29:14 · update #1
Perhaps you are ready for a steady relationship and she isn't. Sounds as though she may need time BUT at the same time I would let her know your feelings otherwise you may end up losing her all together.
2006-07-09 11:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Birthday Gift For Ex Girlfriend
2016-10-31 00:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is allot of good advice on these other posts. Since she's your ex, I wouldn't buy her a gift, but you could split the difference. Instead of a gift, get her a card, or better yet make it yourself. (maybe your computer has a program for it). I'd keep it simple, and to the point.
After that you can do one of two things: Have a sit down honest talk with her and let her know your feelings. (Maybe she shares your pain). or 2) Write everything down on paper about how you feel, where you'd like to see your relationship with her to go (do you want to get back together, be good friends, etc.) Leave it open ended just like your emotions seem to be right now.
Just be sure to add a Post Script saying that you'd like some sort of reply, although it may be unnecessary, because most women will get the hint that a response would be good.
Then insert the letter inside the card, and send it off in the mail just like you'd send off an e-mail into the void we call the web.
Now sit back and be patient. If she does share your feelings, and want to get back together, she will contact you. At the very least she'll say thank you for the card. If that's all she does, then by all means move on with your life.
2006-07-10 08:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 19:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT about whether you should buy your x-gf a present. This is about your getting over the past and move on. You need to move on because it is the only way for you to feel comfortable being with her. If you love her, and she does not love you anymore, but you keep insisting on being with her everyday, the only one who would get frustrated is you. Decide on what would be the best thing to do. In your case, you should only buy her a present when you think of her as a friend. If you buy her a present, and you put your heart into that present, and your x-gf's reaction would not match your love, then you'd feel rejected. Be her friend. Don't be her former lover. Be her friend, be in her life but at the same time, control your life.
2006-07-09 11:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mercii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am sorry for the break up and i don't think you should buy her gift because she is your ex and i understand that you still have feelings for her but i think you should sort of move on and try to see other people and i don't think you two getting back together is a good ideal because it seems like every time you get back together you guys just end up breaking up again maybe it is a sign that you two shouldn't be together and that your personality's don't fit each other so try dating and getting to know other people so you can see what different kinds of personality's you get along with and what kind you don't.
Good Luck!
2006-07-09 11:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Brown skin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was her choice to end it, then no, a present probably wouldn't make her reconsider. If anything it will only make her feel guilty and irritated. You broke up for several reasons, and those reasons will not go away just because you give her a birthday gift. At the most, simply wish her happy birthday, but if you want her back, then talk to her.
2016-03-16 21:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a present, don't make it too expensive but make it something sentimental. Make it one of her favorite things, like buy her a stuffed animal of her favorite animal or something. Make it something sweet. Don't cut off communication with her, that will just make you more depressed, because as much as it may hurt, you most likely do want her in your life. Eventually you need to tell her how you feel, if you say you know shes not ready, you might know because you dated for a couple years. Trust your instinct in that case and when you feel she is ready, tell her. She needs to know because you never know if she feels the same. People hide their emotions because they are afraid of getting hurt, but if you hide it too long she'll find someone else and you'll get hurt even more, you have to tell her.
2006-07-09 11:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not buy her a birthday present. If you're struggling without being with her then she's probably doing the same thing and it's going to be harder to get out of this relationship if you buy her the gift. If you buy your ex a gift, she'll think you have strong feelings for her STILL and it will make the situation worsen, becuase you say you're still deciding whether to break it off or not. if you have to question that, then break it off. don't put yourself in a bad situation and don't attempt to put her in one as well. good luck!
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2016-05-31 23:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋