So I'm in an online relationship and have been talking to this guy for about 5 months. I have some very strong feelings for him and he says he has them for me too. The thing is we both work a lot but I have a few days off coming up. I've never personally met him but my friend has and says hes a great guy. We kind of decided that we don't want one another to see the other until we both can get some time off together. The thing is I was thinking about suprising him and going to visit him with my time off this week, but as a surprise. Do you think he would like this or make it seem like i'm stalking him? I don't want to make it seem like I'm too attached just yet I guess.
2006-07-09 10:50:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait no, he's not married...we are kind of boyfriend and girlfriend (he officially asked me out about a month ago lol)
2006-07-09 10:54:45 · update #1
and just so everyone knows, we are 8 hours away so its a day drive, its not like we're close
2006-07-09 10:56:04 · update #2
Its not stalking, but his wife might mind when you ask to sleep over for the next few nights.
2006-07-09 10:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Fee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already agreed together to wait until both of you could have time together, so you'll just have to be patient, stalker.
Just kidding.
But seriously, he may not take it as a cool thing for you to just pop in when you 2 have made this decision together. You're building a good thing, just let it build a little longer.
Or if you're just bursting, change the plans a little; you 2 make some time to be off together, so you have a date in mind that you 2 will meet. If he seems hesitant to that suggestion, maybe you 2 aren't as close as you had hoped, or there's something he's not telling you.
2006-07-09 10:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me tell you from expeirence online relationships can be nice in the beginning i met a guy online 11/04 we talked for hours on the phone texted and all that.. He moved down here 8/05 left 5/06. We didn't even know what each other looked like till he walked off the plane he moved over 2000 miles to be with and brought his 2 kids with him. We argued alot and it was hard because we did love each other he ended up leaving to go back and to be taken care of by his family. WE thought we knew each other so well because of our long conversations and all that. In the end i feel like it was great that we got to meet but not great for us in a couple way.. Oops sorry i got off track.. Its up to you but don't be dissapointed when things might not work our the way you hope.. Good Luck!!
2006-07-09 10:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by mmmgirl62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a friend who knows him, it took away my alarm that he is a married man playing you. Sorry if I sound suspious...experience has taught me not to trust most men, especially with my heart.
You could drop hints about what if one day I came and swooped you off your feet for a nice night or two together...You could say that you'd find it very romantic if either one of you could make that happen and see what he says. I'd hate for you to go through the planning and then find out he couldn't hook up with you due to other obligations... test the waters in conversation and see what his response would be...good luck, I hope it works for you two. Love is wonderful, but the expectation and anticipation makes it more electric once you do get together!
2006-07-09 11:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by vickie32091 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldn't surprise him like this, especially since you've never met in person. He might not be ready for face to face, and that could make it uncomfortable for you both - which will snowball into all kinds of problems.
You could do a partial surprise....go to wherever it is you were going to go - but call him and tell him you're there and would like to meet him.
2006-07-09 10:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. Pushy, assuming and not too bright. You aren't dating. What if he has plans? What if he has to work? What if someone else is there? This has disaster written all over it.
You need to meet this person on neutral territory, so that you are both on equal footing. And he should be involved in the planning, so that he doesn't feel that you are a pushy psycho trying to take over his life.
2006-07-09 10:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would qualify as stalking but, since it is not what you agreed on, maybe you should talk to him first. I bet he would be okay if you stopped by to say hi.
If not, try to schedule a time to meet together.
2006-07-09 10:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by bardoi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online relationship is not really fair cos the person may be pretending to be what he is not.When you stay with someone then you can guage your tolerance to decide your true love.
if you love this person why not make change for physicall stay together at least for some month cos it could be one nite stand
2006-07-09 10:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by mally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think surprising him on your first meeting is a good idea.
2006-07-09 10:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!! Absence makes the heart gro fonder!
2006-07-09 10:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by Caffiene Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋