What should you do for someone who tries suicide alone?

Question

I asked earlier about my husband. Now he came over and told me he took a lot of pills 4 nights ago to commit suicide, but just got sick. I just feel empty, but didn't ask him to stay. I told him if he went to rehab I would go to counseling with him afterward, but promise nothing else. Help!

Answer 1

You didn't specify if you and your husband were still living together. It sounds as if you aren't. It sounds like there have been some problems and your relationship has suffered. Are drugs possibly involved? Meth is the hardest to deal with that I know of. I know there are more addicting drugs, but Meth is a psychotic drug. It actually causes psychotic episodes in people who have never had that type of problem before.
You also didn't indicate whether there are children involved. You have to make the best choice given all the information YOU have for yourself (and your family) as well as your husband.
If you have been having problems, this may just be a cry for help. Or attention. Now, that we've got that out of the way.....

Since you are the person who was told about the suicide attempt, you can sign the papers to have him committed. The question is: Is he of sound mind and body to make the decision himself. It's a hard choice to make. If you go "behind his back" to get the process started he may feel betrayed. Then again, are you prepared and able to deal with the consequences of waking up to find that his last attempt succeeded? Like I said, it's a hard choice to make. I had the same thing happen to me. I was saved by having to make that choice. I called his family instead and let them know what was going on. They are all Christians and they all came through for him. (We were separated at the time). They stayed with him (took turns daily) and made sure that he was ok. They helped him to get the counseling and drug rehab he needed. Ultimately, he accepted that he needed the help and is now on the road to recovery.
All people and situations are different, though. You might want to try getting his family involved, but that also depends on his relationships with them. You know your husband (probably better than his mom does). When it comes down to it, You have to do what YOU think is best for him and for you.
Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

Try to get him into group therapy.He will see he's not alone,and it might help.However,don't pressure him to stay in it if it doesn't help.Also,he needs to see a doctor about antidepressents.Wellbutrin is the best one I know of.I've taken it off and on to help me quit smoking.It's the only one I can take for any amount of time.Just make sure that you both understand medication is almost always temporary.After being on it for a while,you either need to up the dose or it starts making you sick.And talk.Well,ask him to talk while you listen,without judgement.Sometimes it's chemical,sometimes life is just too hard.Sometimes it's both.Outside of that,you can't really do anything.Depression is a very solitary disease.

Answer 3

When I left my ex husband he showed me where he had "attempted" to slit his own wrists.. if he'd really wanted to do it it would have been done.. sometimes people use suicide as a ploy to get back with someone they've lost..
I called the cops on my ex when he showed me. They went and got him and made him go in for a pshychological evaluation. That way I knew if he WAS by any chance serious he'd get help and if he WASN'T I'd be getting the point accross that it was not going to get me back.
Good Luck and don't fall for it.

Answer 4

If you think this is more then him pulling at your heart strings, but that he may be serious about taking his life, then you should intervene. In many places it is illegal to attempt suicide, and the state can place you in a hospital for evaluation. Contact his family, friends, whoever you think can help, and if possible, confront him as a group. Let him know that he has support, that there are people in his life that care, and are willing to help.

Answer 5

He wants your attention and by threatening, he knows that you'll be symphatic. In Texas you can have a mental illness warrent issued if he is in danger of hurting himself. They will lock in up for a few days in the mental ward and find out what's really going on.

Answer 6

It sounds like he may be playing you.

If he talks about killing himself, at the time he says it, call 911 and get him to the hospital for a psychiatric evaluation.
No sense in taking chances.

Answer 7

Contact his doctor and tell him about this. At least you will absolve yourself that you could have done something with knowing what you know. He is probably also trying to control you by telling you this. Don't fall for this! His problems are his....yours are yours. You seem to have them also. You need to get conseling for yourself and get out of an abusive relationship.

Answer 8

It is a cry out for help but in no way should you enable him. If he really wants to end his life, he will, but call a police officer and see if they can help you get him to a mental service

Answer 9

Get him to a psychiatrist, but if he really meant to do it he would be gone. Sounds like a way to get you back. Make him prove himself or it will never work for you. Hang tough.

Answer 10

Find out why he is so unhappy, dig down and find out what demon is pushing his buttons. Sometimes people are running from life, everyone knows dying is easy, it's life that is hard. Find what your guy is running from and help him to confront it. If you can't help then get away and save yourself.