(parents only )would you let a 14 year old have a boyfriend?

Question

i am very smart in school i make As and Bs never ever got a C i am very mature my parent let me do most things i clean i know how to cook but for some reason my parents wont let me have a boyfriend they dont even let a guy call to the house. not even a friend Are they bieng to over protective?

Answer 1

I think they are being a little over protective. As a parent i do understand that, but also have to realize that they have to make their own decisions also. You have to trust, (as a parent) even if it eats you up inside. To answer the question, yes i would because i have to trust my little girl, and hope she makes the right choices.

Answer 2

Wow! I am a parent of 2 girls and a boy my boy is the youngest he is only 07 my girls are 14 and 13. They both have boyfriends. The boys call the house. At times they come over to the house. No one is born a Parent. We live and learn. After seeing the answers on here I think I need to rethink things. I got married when I was 15 but never went with a boy my own age. I thought it would be okay since the boys they see are the same age as them. You r parents are trying to do what is best for you. They love you and are just trying to protect you.. When you get older you will understand.
Be patient and try to be understanding.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Okay, you think you are mature, but what about the guys you want to date? The guys your age are all probably really immature or looking for sex (or both) and since you haven't had much experience with guys, you might not know how to tell the few good ones apart from the not-so-good ones. Actually, at 14 it's not good to want a boyfriend. It's okay to really like a friend and hope something developes (over time), but not to want a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. I'm sure that if you do find someone you really like, you're smart enough to find a way to get your parents to meet him and like him, too.

Have you talked to your parents? let them know that you feel old enough and mature enough to (I guess) choose the right kinds of guys to be friends with?

Could trying a "friends only" approach with your parents help to change their minds about having a boyfriend?

How many girls do you know who are pregnant or have been pregnant in high school? Whatever your parents decide, please make careful decisions.

Answer 4

Generally, yes, they're being overprotective. But consider: you're 14. Is your prospective boyfriend also 14?

If he's age appropriate, you may want to start a dialog with your mother. You'll need to agree to:
keep your grades up
let her know where you are and who you're with, at all times you're not home
do your homework and chores
not stay out past, say, 9:00, on school nights
introduce your date to your parents
not tie up the phone or computer for hours on end

Also -- since you're 14, you and your prospective date will need an adult to drive you (unless you both live within walking or biking distance of wherever you go for a date). Ask your mom or dad for a ride. Parents are always more comfortable if they get to meet the guy.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I am the biological mother of two young children and the step-mother of a 15-year-old girl who lives with my husband and me. You should be happy that your parents care enough about you to set rules and limits. Many teens today seem to grow up with very little and sometimes no partental guidance at all. Talk to your parents and see what their reasoning is behind some of the rules that you do not agree with. Although it may sound corny, your parents love you and want what is best for you. You ARE only 14 and have many, many years to have a boyfriend. Don't grow up too fast.

Answer 6

You must understand straight A students get pregnant too, your parents are worried about the peer pressure of you having to go to the next level! You must sit down and talk to them is at all possible, it may be your religion or it may be a fear that one or both of your parent have experienced. Maybe if you have a heart to heart with the parent that you can talk to the best you can understand the thoughts going through the minds of both of them that way you can make at least that parent understand that you are growing up. Then in turn you have an ally that can probably talk to the more strick parent. Maybe they're waiting till you get 16 or 17, the only way to find out is if to talk to them or at least one of them!!!

Answer 7

I'm a parent and I wouldn't not let my 14 year have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Concentrate on keeping your grades up and dating should come later. I do agree though that 16 would be a good age. You have plenty of time. Enjoy being a kid. It won't last long believe me. Good luck in school. Keep up the good work.

Answer 8

I'm sure they are just trying to keep you as young as possible. However, I believe at 14 you should be able to talk on the phone to a boy and also go on parental monitored dates. Such as you and the boy going to a movie with your parents..this sort of thing. This will allow you to show your parents you are ready, and also for your parents to teach you the do's and don't's of being a lady while on a date.

I reasoning's behind this is that I think if we offer up our children monitored life experiences, they are more likely to stay honest and not sneak them. Plus, dating, and the protocol that goes with it are things that teens need to learn in order to prepare for adulthood, and if parents want to raise great people then who better than to teach these skills to our teens? I mean, good dating skills are what will lead to choosing your husband.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I think 14 is young for a boyfriend, but I don't understand why they won't allow Friends that are male. That is crazy... maybe you should start them off by going out w/ a mixed group of friends, boys and girls. After they get to meet and know some of your friends, they may come around. Good luck. And great job in school!

Answer 10

I don't think a boyfriend at this age is a good thing. 99% of the time it just spell future heartbreak. It is best to have many different "boyfriends". And yes they can call the house if some rules are followed. They can call no later than 10. And not repeatedly.