is it ok for a 18 month old toddler to take a shower with her father in the nude?

Question

father is way over protective over her even around family members

Answer 1

That's a personal choice. It is between mom and dad and no one else really has a say. Personally though, I believe that it is about how "aware" the child is. If the child would really notice there was a difference, I may think twice about it. But if the child did not notice either way, I don't think it's a big deal

Answer 2

In general, yes, quite OK for a dad to shower with his daughter at that age. The less mystique there is about male and female anatomy, the better, in my view. I believe that many sexual aberrations (including, by the way, over-reaction to a situation such as discussed here) might be traced to some negative training in a person's childhood and adolescence.

The 'overprotectiveness' is a separate issue. In deciding if there were anything wrong, I would want to know exactly how this father is 'overprotective'. Just to say "father is way over protective over her even around family members." is too sweeping and subjective a statement to make any judgement on.

Answer 3

At 18 months old she has no idea what a penis is and there is no reason that she cannot have a shower with her dad. I think around age 3 when they start to notice differences or start asking questions is a good time to stop it. Some people are just a little more sensitive to this question because of all the child molesters out there, but everyone needs to calm down!

Answer 4

I think it is perfectly fine. Would any of these ppl saying it's sick and wrong say that if a mother showered with her male child? You should ask that just to compare responses! Fathers like and need to take care of their children just the same as mothers do. Because he is a man doesn't mean he is a pervert! Get real ppl, if she was 5 that would be inappropriate! But 18 monthes she doesn't know or care. My 4 yr old runs around the house naked and thinks it is fine. They don't understand the concept of shame of their bodies until they are taught.

Answer 5

If for some reason you and the wife are in a hurry to an appointment etc to save time put the child in the shower wash her off then hand her to her momma.And it would depend,is it the child wanting to shower with daddy because that has been done since she was really young,or is it dad's idea?If so I think it's time she bathed with mom.I see nothing wrong with the dad bathing his daughter if mom isn't available,but not with him in the shower naked,that would make me uncomfortable!a regular bath to me it isn't any different than the mom bathing her sons. I don't think the parents should go about the house undressed or in their underwear either.By around 5 years old my kids were taught to get dressed or put on their bath robe before leaving their room

Answer 6

For you to be even asking the question shows your instincts are telling you there is something wrong! Go with your instincts and keep that baby as close to you as you can. That is very weird that he is so protective around other family members. That is a sign of child molestation. You need to contact child protective services. You don't have to tell them who you are. Ask them the same question and they can tell you the signs or point you in the direction of someone that can.
Please do everything you can to protect her! To many people over look the signs! Try to set up a video camera if you have to without him knowing.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

How else would you take a shower? I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Children, unlike adults, don't care that they are nude, or if anyone else is. The only way a toddler would be damaged by this is if the father was abusing her or if people confused her by telling her that this was wrong.

Answer 8

I think its okay to a certain degree.I have a 2 and a half year old son and he screams at the bathroom door when I am in shower so I just let him in with me..But I think it might feel a little different with a father and a daughter..I love my husband and everything but I would be a little hesitant to have my daughter take a shower with him..Not saying that he would do something but thats pushing it..She wont remember taking a shower with him though.Why dont you have her take a shower with you?

Answer 9

I wonder would people think its wrong for a mother to take a shower with her 18 month old son? I don't think its wrong I think that once shes a little older you shouldn't do it since shes a girl and doesn't have the same parts, but as long as the dad isn't doing anything wrong then it shouldn't matter.

Answer 10

18 months is only a year and a half. I think the answer to your question is another question: Are you comfortable with it? Or are the parents comfortable with it? There could be laws dealing with those kind of matters in certain states. If it really bothers you, check your state's laws for it. But on the morale level, it's only wrong if you think there's something wrong with it.

oh, and another thought...The child might, in a year or two, ask why her father has something she doesn't have. That is a point where her parents have to decide what to tell her.

Answer 11

well I would say there's no problem except of his over protectiveness that makes me a little nervous. Please watch your daughter to see if there are any signs of abuse. But normally there wouldn't be a problem I don't believe in the double standards my son to a shower with me last weekend and he just fine. He's just learning to take a shower so he is still a little nervous he is 2 1/2 but usually takes baths. He will shower with me or my husband he thinks it a game/fun. I wanna say you know you husband and you know your heart if you feel its a little strange then it needs to stop. Is this your (ans his) only child? If so that can explain the over protectiveness. But just watch him when he plays with her and watch his hands and such. Have her take a shower with you and see what she does with you if its of adult content then you'll know whats going on. She is to young to talk to and with that said he couldn't tell her not to say anything. Since she is so young she should mimic the same actions with you since she doesn't know if its good or bad.