Sometimes hes down rite hateful too! I love him dearly but im at the end of my rope with him! Any advice from experience and trial and error would be helpful!
2006-07-09 10:23:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-07-09 10:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by James 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The hyper part is quite normal for a 3 yr old boy.But being hateful is something you have allowed him to get away with! Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs anyone could ever have.And sometimes saying "no" and sticking to it hurts us more than it does the child "tough love" When you notice he is building towards the hyper try to redirect his activities to something slower paced.But when he is hateful towards you stand firm and give him a 5 minute time out.If he won't sit in a chair for time out then leave him alone but totally ignore him,when he speaks to you act as though he's not even there.It will take a few times for him to realize that you are serious! When you see the look of recognition in his eyes then calmly talk with him and let him know that when he is hateful to you that it hurts your feelings. As bad as you think it is right now,I assure you it will be much worse when he gets a few years older!
2006-07-09 18:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pain compliance. I suggest learning some non-invasive pain compliance techniques. Hair pulling is very effective. Grab a small bundle of hairs behind the little devil's ears and pull sharply. I also suggest trying what is known as a 'gooseneck' maneuver. Come up from behind and take control of one arm. Grab the hand, forcing the elbow into your abdomen. Bend the little Dickins' hand down, at the same time locking his/her elbow. Be careful not to over-extend the hand. The result is a sharp pain, interrupting your child's thought proceses, allowing you to get complete control. Finally, I also suggest sleep deprivation. Unfortunately, this option requires several days and the help of a friend. But, it's as easy as it sounds. Merely keep the child awake. All night long. You and a friend sleep in shifts, with one gently shaking (or splashing water) on the child, while the other rests.
2006-07-09 18:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by Roy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important: Limit sugar intake. No soda, no juices with sugar, no candy. Serve healthy snacks and foods.
Start a routine. My kids and I wake up between 6:30 and 7:00. Breakfast between 7:00 and 7:30. After that, we have playtime until snack which is between 10:00 and 10:30. We play outside before lunch (which is served at 12:00), and then they are tired enough to sleep after lunch. Their nap is two hours but sometimes I will wake them up earlier. Then we have another snack and more outside play time before dinner (which is at 5:30). After dinner if they are good, it is their extra play time. We will either go to the play room or go outside. Either way, wear the kid(s) out and they will act better when they are inside. Following a routine helps a LOT. :)
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-07-16 11:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take a deep breath! Second, could there be something medical going on? Might want to discuss it with your peditrican. Third, take a deep breath.
3yo boys are hyper by nature anyways. I don't believe in terrible 2's, its deffinately terrible 3's. Give him pleanty of opportunity to run run run run. Outdoor activites tend to tire them out more. Swimming is awesome. If you can't work that in, how about a good session of jumping on the bed. It's fun for them and you. Just make sure everything around him is safe and let him go. Summer is a great time to run that hyperness out of them.
As for the hatefulness, if it's not a medical issue, well.... all kids say hurtful things. Its part of growing up. It might be shocking to us because, I don't know about you, but if I ever said 1/4 of what my kids say to me, to my parents.... Look out!
One thing I did, and this was more for my own sanity, was to lay down with him during his nap times. Even if he didn't want to nap, I layed down with him. He would cry and cry because he didn't want to slow down but I felt it was exactly what he needed. During this time, I would just watch over him and it would help to remind me what an angel he really was. Watching a sleeping child, especialy a difficult child, can be so refreshing mentally and spiritually. I am speaking as a mom of two ADHD boys so I think I know what you might be going through.
Remember to work in some "mommy time". It's vital that you as a caregiver, take care of yourself. Read, yoga, knit, workout, ANYTHING, just do something YOU like to do.
Good luck and stay strong!
2006-07-09 17:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by M. K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is what is he eating? Lots of good stuff or lots of sugar and coloring?
Second thought is does he have adequate play outlets? As in lots of running around outside, physical activity, etc.
Does he have a fairly strict bed time and rest time during the day? Do you, the mama, honor your own needs for space and time to yourself? Do you have support from friends and family and others to help take the kid off your hands once in awhile?
When you are together, what kinds of things do the two of you do? Reading, dancing, listening to good music, turn off the tv, and really pay attention to him.
Let me know if any of this works, and remember change does not happen overnight and give yourself some space and relax. gaylestevens136@hotmail.com
2006-07-09 17:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by gayle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly the best thing to do is ignore the bad and praise the good, A LOT. Take him away from the situation you don't approve of, but do not react in any way, say nothing, don't give him any attention what so ever. Put him in a neutral place on his own until he has calmed down and realised he was doing wrong but SAY NOTHIN to him.
When he does something good, give him LOADS of attention, praise him, hug him, tell him what a good boy he is and make a real fuss of him.
he will soon realise that being bad isn't going to get him the right sort of attention that he wants, and will start being good to get your attention. Because that is all it is really, attention seeking. if he gets attention by being naughty then he is going to keep being naughty because that is the only way he knows to get your attention.
Good luck
2006-07-09 17:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child doesn't take naps, at least make him have quiet time duruing the day. Do not allow him to get up for at least 20 minutes. moniter what he is eating. cut back on things with a lot of food coloring and sugar. don't forget the big I for (IGNORE)
ignore behaviors that is not causing harm to himself or others and address only behaviors that you think is a biggie! try not to be yelling at him allll day. not saying you do, just thought I throw that in too.
2006-07-09 18:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by retta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 3 yr old is the same way after he turns 4 you can have him tested for ADD or ADHD my son will be test 3 days after he turns 4 but he could just be naturally hyper
2006-07-10 23:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one said it would be easy. He will continue to be hyper at 3. There is not much to do here but to decrease his sugar intake. This will help but not solve completely. There is no "fix" for a normal developmental stage.
2006-07-16 14:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Gudi2Shus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋