How can I overcome being so shy? I hate it. I have someone helping me but this person just doesn't understand its not that easy.
2006-07-09 10:12:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
Okay when I say ''I hate it'' I mean like, it stops me from meeting great people. I always hide away and never have as much fun as I'd like to. That doesn't mean I'm not comfortable or don't accept myself...
2006-07-09 10:19:07 · update #1
Begin to say to yourself "How can I make this person I've just met feel comfortable?" (Or, "How can I help this person I'm with feel comfortable around me?" The idea is to focus on the other person more than you focus on yourself. It takes practice. But you can become more outgoing if you commit yourself to this. Good luck!
2006-07-09 13:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must study and read books on fear. I believe it is the underlying reason for shyness. You are playing cards with a half deck and playing It safe. Why? Life is too short to drink cheap beer! Go for it! If you lose, you win, because it is only when we risk top do we really win in life. You can;t play ball if you don't have one. Have a ball! You are supposed to be having a great time here, but many of forgot that or never learn it, due to fear of many things, including being made to look the fool, feel that people will reject us, not like us, etc. It is the need to be seen as perfect, which we are not if we do not go for life in a full way.
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2006-07-09 21:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off small and join a meeting of some sort. IE: If you have children, you can join a playgroup to meet other people. Once you have done well with that move on to something bigger. Perhaps you can donate your time for a charity. That will help you meet people and overcome being shy. You have to face your fears or else you'll always have them.
2006-07-09 17:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I consider myself a little shy....or maybe self conscious also. You need to make a game of it and set goals...that's what I do. You need to get out of the box....for instance, if you have a party or affair that you're invited to and you don't want to go.....You need to at least try to attend it for an hour or so....you may find that after you are there for a while that you are enjoying yourself. Find someone or a group of people that have the same interest as you.....in time, you will find that some of the shyness may disappear.....it will also help you grow as an individual.
2006-07-09 21:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bluewillow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got over being shy in 7th grade... i would tell myself to pretend that this new person is not new and to treat them like ive known them forever.. also the belief that i may never see them again anyways helped me with the anxiety of messing up ... so that took me a full year to practice that...now i have no anxieties about meeting new people and it has helped me with public speaking as well! good luck!
2006-07-09 17:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by mz.Tiza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it takes risk. We are shy because we are unsure. We need to "know" ourselves and love ourselves enough to risk being "known"! Ask yourself some questions...do you love yourself? Are you OK with family issues? You don't have to love every one and every thing, but you do have to be able to except your life be for you can open up to other....you are on the right track...keep up the good work..it is work!!! Hang Tough....
2006-07-10 06:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by wndymrrs1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will when you need to. . . like when you need money or you want a man more than anyone else . Then , you will see that it's worth your while . Until you see me , you will remain shy cuz there is no man worth getting bold over 'cept me so you stay shy and sweet till you see Da Man !
BOSCO
2006-07-09 17:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on confidence and self-esteem and also accept yourself because there is nothing wrong with being a little shy.
2006-07-09 17:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to master your body language and your movements.That will help in building up of confidence which will help you in overcoming shyness
Good luck.
2006-07-09 17:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Eternity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sing karaoke, you might feel very uncomfortable when you start, but if you can get through a song, you'll feel a little more social.
2006-07-09 17:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by presidentofallantarctica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋