I have just begun dating a surgical technician who is frequently on-call. Many of our past dates have been cancelled because he has been called into work. I am trying my best to be understanding of his career and his schedule; however, too many times have I gotten dressed up to go on a date that was cancelled at the last minute. I am getting frustrated and I really want this to work out. I am hoping for advice from anyone who has had similar experiences.
2006-07-09 10:08:34 · 10 answers · asked by Kizzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I honestly think you need to just put things in a different perspective. Yea, it sucks to get dressed up and then have the date canceled, that's a given. But if your date is canceled because someones life needs saving, isn't that worth giving up dinner & a movie? Try concentrating on how special of a person your new BF is that he would dedicate his life to medicine, to saving others..to putting their needs above his own. I think it says worlds about him as a person, and that kind of person you want to hold onto....not be selfish and petty over a few cancelled dates. I think if you just get creative things can work out. For instance...if you guys have plans, you get yourself all beautiful and then its cancelled... Well why not ask him about how long his surgery will be and then bring dinner to the hospital? Suprise him with a rooftop candle lit dinner.....not only will it show him how thought ful you are, because you understand his work, but you still want to spend what time you can together. Seriously, I think you just need to stop looking at your own disapointments and concentrate on the possitives here. Hello! You're dating a doctor! And a surgen at that!
Good luck!
2006-07-09 10:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither, Imaging is the way to go. Surg Tech doesn't pay enough and you are at the mercy of surgeons. Nursing is a thankless job with terrible hours, if you want to work like a dog for 12 hours a day go for it. This is the advise I've given many times, if you have computer skills, like working with one patient at a time and find being paid well a bonus, look into Ultrasound, MRI, CT scan, anything in the imaging field. Good Luck!
2016-03-15 21:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason you have to put up with that but he'll expect you to if you start now so put your foot down. A surgical tech doesn't have to be on call if he doesn't want to be but the money is usually good for them if they agree to it. Tell him to plan to date you on nights when he's not on call. There has to be at least a couple of nights a week when he's not on call.
2006-07-09 10:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either be more independent and have more of a life to be w/someone who is a real help in this world or change your dating status to someone who wants to be w/ someone at thier beck &call! A doctor,Nurse,Surgeonetc..have very busy schedules and I don't know how you cannot understand that when you start dating them from the beginning,imagine dating a man in the navy that is gone 6months or more @ a time... Maybe you should look inside yourself and decide what sacrifices you are willing to make....
2006-07-09 10:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by kim.york 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes he'll just have to give a negatory. there a plaenty of surgans out there. ask him to have someone fill in for him. family should come before business. unless it's a career & life altering event. for you next date go see "Click". it'll defianatly help. it shows what happens when family is ignored and work is worshiped.
Good Louck!
Stargazer,
2006-07-09 10:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and be honest. Work around his hectic schedule - maybe on the days he's on call, don't plan to go out, maybe plan a casual dinner or a dinner at your place, that way if he gets called in you aren't all dressed up with no where to go. Plan "dress up" dates on nights when you know he isn't on call.
2006-07-09 10:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive of his job because everyman like a women who can understand his job and be supportive but you can also take the date to his job find out what time he goes on break and how long is it you can get take out from most restaurants and get it from the place you were planning on going to and you can still have dinner with and he well feel so good knowing even though you can not go out you still want to spend time with him plus be glade that is is trying to do something with his life some men don't care so hang in there girl it might just be worth your wild
2006-07-09 10:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by sassyladytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try setting up more dates so that you have more time to be together. you kinda just have to understand that he's always going to be on call. if you guys go further than dating, like marriage, be prepared that he wont be there that often. it's not that he doesn't WANT to be with you, but if he REALLY wanted to be with you, he would be trying to find more times to go out with you
2006-07-09 10:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by italianchick44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I have no advice! But I am on call 24/7 with the railroad and I know how he feels when you have to cancel a date. I you really like him, you will make it work...
2006-07-09 10:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by wittster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have had the same thing. but its called patients and understanding. youll end up with some fantastic dates sooner or later and its all worth it then
2006-07-09 10:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋