and every time i tell her that i dont like him she starts saying how good and nice he is and how he takes care of her and hes better then any other guy she was with ....and thats not true cuz i think my dad is the best guy shes ever been with..but whatever....me and my stepdad dont really get along well and i dont like the way he treats my mom like a slave..im tired of his lazy a.s.s and hes soo conceded(sry idk if thats how u spell it)...he thinks my mom is so lucky to have him....what should i do??
2006-07-09 09:53:26 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You'll be moving out in a few years anyway, so why sweat it?
2006-07-09 09:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really great that you love your biological father still the best. It must be terribly difficult being forced to live with a man who is not your father. However, for reasons beyond your understanding at this time, your mother chooses to be married to this man, who is your step-father.
I came from a divorced family and had a step-father too. It was weird. But, I am in my own marriage of 31 years. We had two kids, a boy and a girl. My daughter was jealous some times over her father. She would say to me sometimes, "You hog Dad all to yourself." Today we are good friends, my daughter and I, and she's not jealous anymore.
In fact, she is getting married this fall to a nice guy. She is understanding a lot more about relationships. She got her degree and the guy she is marrying is educated too. They are building a new home which will be ready when they marry. They have waited and not rushed into a marriage.
So, you can choose to live your life differently too. But for now, enjoy your mother when you can. Respect her for trying the best she can to take care of you. Life's not easy for anyone.
Hope this helps some.
2006-07-09 17:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Chew on this! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't do anything, it's your mom's decision. Just don't get into his way, and try not to be a problem to him. It won't help things out at home if you and him are constantly argueing. Maybe you'll eventually get used to him. What you're feeling is normal, and you're not the first person to experience that, nor will you be the last. The best thing to happen is that he'll accept you as his own, and treat you that way. Give it an honest chance...it just may work out. Best of luck to you.........
2006-07-09 16:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you have given him a fair chance to prove himself, any shot of going to live with your Dad? Aside from that is it possible to explain to your Mom that while she may really like your stepdad, you just don't have it in you. Not everyone likes everyone else. However, the main thing is to be respectful of your mother and of your stepdad even if you don't like him. See what you can do about living elsewhere if it is too unbearable.
2006-07-09 18:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is not going to see anything she is not ready to see, so it will be hard to convince her of anything at this point. Sometimes, people get so caught up in their own agenda that they forget how their relationships impact those around them. Can you talk to your dad? Can you live with your dad? Do you have other family members you can turn to help talk to your mom? Maybe you can find a support group online for people with a crappy stepparent. Good luck to you.
2006-07-09 16:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it or move in with your dad. It's your mom's life and maybe you need to be more understanding of her needs to have a mate and stop being such a selfish twerp.
2006-07-09 16:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by wild_orchid_1988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regretfully there's not much you can do unless he actually mistreats her, like hitting her. She must hate being alone more than she hates being his slave. I hope you can stay out of his hair as much as possible. Do any of your mom's friends see anything about his treatment of her? Maybe herfriend can mentionsomething.Be careful. Sometimes that backfires.
2006-07-16 05:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your moms choice. I'm sure it makes you mad to see him treat her like a slave. She will speak up when she has had enough. Just do what you are supposed to do, school, chores or whatever and wait. When mom has had enough you will know it. m
2006-07-09 17:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supposing your mom will never ever get back with your dad, is the step dad okay then?
2006-07-09 16:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. This is your mother's decision. If they aren't meant to be then she will divorce him too. Just like she and your dad did when they realized they weren't meant to be. Also, because you love your Dad no one will ever be as good as him.
2006-07-09 17:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by kittykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to put up with the worthless S.O.B until you are old enough to move out or find a way to go live with your dad.
2006-07-09 16:57:52 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. No 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋