I hang out with him a lot, he's two years younger than me. He's still gonna be in highschool and I'm going to go off to college after this year. I really want to tell him and maybe ask him to a school dance this year, but I don't want things to be weird when we hang out. My sister also hangs out with us, and she's a few months younger than him. When we all hang out we play games like smeer the queer and stuff like that, so if I told him I liked him, I don't want him to think that I'm being a perv when we play games that involve tackling/wrestling. I've liked this person for four years now, and I don't want to go to college without getting my chance with him if i have one. I'm know I'm retarded, but please help anyways. Thanks! : )
2006-07-09 09:34:40 · 13 answers · asked by Kira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hang out with him a lot, he's two years younger than me. He's still gonna be in highschool and I'm going to go off to college fall 2007 and I would definitely stay instate and most likely live at home for my first two years. I really want to tell him and maybe ask him to a school dance this year, but I don't want things to be weird when we hang out. My sister also hangs out with us, and she's a few months younger than him. When we all hang out we play games like smeer the queer and stuff like that, so if I told him I liked him, I don't want him to think that I'm being a perv when we play games that involve tackling/wrestling. I've liked this person for four years now, and I don't want to go to college without getting my chance with him if i have one. I'm know I'm retarded, but please help anyways. Thanks! : )
And on 7/11 I went to a movie with "him" and my sister, his brother and a girl who likes him also, and I was only 1 who sat by him. It was wierd, we didn't talk much, but nice.
2006-07-12 11:57:54 · update #1
SORRY EVERYONE: The "additional details" copied my first ones, so you don't need to read the first, or if you've read the first, you don't need to read until after "Thanks" on the "additional details". This is my first time using this website, so again, I apologize for my stupidity.
But, there's one more thing I'd like to add:
I've thought about trying to like other guys, or not think about "HIM"-(my neighbor)-so much, and it works for a little bit while I'm flirting with other guys, but then when I hang out or see "him" again, I think, "how could I have liked these other guys," because I know him, and I've seen all side of him, except for the "boyfriend" side, and I love them all, sure there's a few times he can get on my nerves, but nothing to ever make me stop likeing him or even come close to it.
Thank You to everyone so much for taking the time to help me out, I REALLY, TRULEY appreciate it!! Oh, and I don't know if this makes a difference, but "he" would be my first boyfriend.
2006-07-12 12:04:50 · update #2
I've lost two women I would have gladly married because I failed to let them know exactly how I felt about them!
DO NOT be afraid to tell him how you feel....chances are he is going to share your feelings anyway. Hint.....he hangs out with your younger sister and YOU!
If you say nothing to him....you will regret it for many many many years to come! I know, I've been there!!!
If he is your neighbor...go hang out with him without letting your sister know where you are going so you can have him to yourself for a while to talk to and with him.
Start off by suggesting the two of you hang out one night...nothing spectacular....just the two of you....this will give you a chance to ask him if he has anyone he is interested in and see what his response is. If he comes right back with a response of someone else....then you could wait a while or ask further questions to him.....if he delays in answering...then he is interested in being more than friends with you!
2006-07-15 13:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by IndecisiveProcrastinator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just take a chance. If you really like this guy then its better to ask then to sit there always wondering. Im sure he probably has the same feelings you do if he spends alot of time with you, and if he doesnt then he obviously likes you as a friend and isnt going to just give that up because you told him how you feel. So i say just tell him, you will feel soooo much better when you are in the know about his feelings
2006-07-15 13:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by LaurenLovesYou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you're going off to college anyway, what do you have to lose? Things might be a little awkward if you let him know how you feel and he doesn't feel the same way. But if you let it go without saying anything, the 'what ifs' may haunt you for the rest of your life! Maybe try hinting at how you feel. If he doesn't have a girlfriend or anything, I say go for it! At least you will have tried. And even if it doesn't work out, you've got plenty of chances with the college guys! ;)
2006-07-09 09:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a form of admiration for you and he doesn't have the confidence to speak to you or he just has no manners. I had someone do that to me many years ago and I got sick of it. It started to creep me out. So I asked him if anything was wrong...."Have I got something on my face?" I said (nicely). It stopped him gawking at me. If he was genuinely nice and interested in you, he'd stop the staring and talk to you. Otherwise you have a right to let him know that his staring makes you uncomfortable. In my 'books', staring constantly is downright rude.
2016-03-26 22:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so common! I think that you should go for it...Let me tell you MY STORY!!! This guy used to like me but I didn't!! well, a little bit! and we used to hang out ;cause he was my brother's friend...well, I never though I will date him, but he kept insisting, and call me on the phone, I used to avoid him, But at the end he won my heart and now we are married have been for 3 yrs.
I thing that if he wouldn't have insisting I will never even consider going out with him!!! Life is a RISK, so you have to risk something...The worse case scenario would be that things will get weird for maybe a year between u and him, but then you will laugh about it...and you will get rid of the WHAT IF situation....So GO FOR IT!!!! really..But be really sweet about it .don't get all weird on him, and well good luck! and about him being younger then you.....That's not a problem....really...love does not know about age!!!
2006-07-15 13:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you leaving the state for college? if so you might want to really think about whether telling him you like him would be good for either of you. i mean if you are leaving the state for college the best possible situation would turn into a long distance relationship (and that's only if he shares your feelings!) i would think about it a lot before doing anything. who knows you might meet some awesome guy in college! plus you could still ask him to a dance and go as friends...
2006-07-09 09:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by lle_20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it. Just ask him. If you like him that much things'll get way more akward if you continue the "friends" route. Just tell him how you feel. Dating doesn't make hanging out akward, it makes it more fun.
2006-07-15 13:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Alaskan_Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask him to get a coke or a hamburger so it does not seem exactly like a date right away.
2006-07-09 09:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by ttt517 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him. Tell him that you don't want to make things wierd and see what happens. Let me know what happens!! Good luck!
2006-07-15 13:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest w/ him...Ask him out for a bite to eat, n take a walk together and tell him how you feel...
2006-07-15 13:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Snowflake ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋