I've been told I'm "too nice," is that possible? I've also been told I need to take more of the bad guy image instead of showing what ladies say they want...honest man, good sense of humor, great with children/wants more, intelligent, doesn't drink/use drugs, loves to have fun/big kid at heart, doesn't cheat, respectable career, and no criminal history....yet I just don't seem to be good enough! What am I doing wrong or need to improve on? All I want is a LADY who will treat me decently, let me spoil them with attention and affection, I enjoy doing the little things for her, and be a great friend and good lover. I'm almost ready to give up and accept being single!
2006-07-09 09:16:48 · 18 answers · asked by IndecisiveProcrastinator 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 36, 5'7" 220-linebacker's build. Hazel green eyes, short brown hair with a little gray...goatee is well kept and also has some gray. I'm also a small business co-owner...Biloxi, MS.
2006-07-09 10:19:52 · update #1
look, think about the animal world. an alpha wolf is always going to be the fastest, or the most clever, or the one who brings back the most from a hunt --- the "nice" sweet, gentle wolf is going to get killed and be eaten.
female wolves are looking for a male who can protect them (& their cubs) in a fight, someone who can provide food in hard times, and whose is good physical shape.
women want the same --- which is why the "nice" guy who pays his bills on time and likes to cuddle sounds good (even to us, we know we should want that), but the good wolf wins everytime.
also, no guy is completely "nice" --- girls want a guy who recognizes the wolf inside him and can joke about it. anyone who says they have no problems is just hiding something.
get into solo sports that will approve your muscle tone, agilty, dexterity and focus (soccer, wakeboarding, mountainbiking, etc.). then you'll find women looking harder to see what kind of good person is underneath.
2006-07-09 12:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by onemodbird 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not "too nice", you're YOU. The reason you haven't found a good catch or perfect mate is because "nice girls" are just as hard to find. Keep up your image. You're the perfect guy girls want. And if anyone tells you that girls don't like an honest, respectable man, then they have a lot of problems. Girls who do say they like "bad boys" are the kind that would live on the dangerous side as well. They would cheat, have abortions on a whim, and live life pulling one night stands. You don't want that, so don't go looking for it. Find the girl who is looking for someone like you. You just have to look in the right places.
2006-07-09 09:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i know a guy just like you and he's mad after one of my friends and the main complaint she has is that he has no edge, no bite to him if you know what i mean. Like she says she just could never imagine having sex with him because he is just so perfect so i think you should just try and show off your darker side every once in a while, like i don't mean be a prick or anythin but show that you have urges and passion, like just grab the girl you are after and kiss her passionatly or tell her what exactly you would like to do to her.
To be honest i love nice guys and you sound like the perfect man so just hold tight and im sure you will find a woman that deserves you eventually :)
2006-07-09 09:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by zzzzzzzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have a good honest man that puts me first... i have been down the bad boy road, its fun for a little bit and then I would just get frustrated. The guy I have know is honest and a gentleman. I wouldn't have it any other way!
2016-03-15 21:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NICE GUYS!! honest guys are the best, because you always know they won't hurt you, and a man who truly loves a woman would never even dream of hurting her. and being intelligent is definetly a good thing. a woman DOES want to have an intelligent conversation with the man she is dating. it shouldn't all be physical. or about drugs or alcohol. and having a sense of humor and a fun side is a plus. just don't go to bars looking for the woman of your dreams, cuz she certainly won't be there. if you truly want a woman to love, go to eharmony.com. you're bound to find someone to love and who loves you back for who you are. it's not just any regular dating site. it works. but otherwise, go to places frequently like coffeeshops or concerts that you're interested in. maybe different fairs or whatever. anyplace social. good luck. if you don't find anyone yet, don't give up.
2006-07-09 09:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all of those are excellent qualities in a man but if you add push over to that array everything else fails to matter. Even though women want all of those things they dont want that to be the only part of the package lets have a bit of self to say yeah you need to deserve me too. Expect treatment yourself and make sure youre not doing those things because you feel you have to but because you want to so that you can meet someone who deserves and appreciates that type of attention and all you do, another thing gradually bring up those features dont just shove it down the womans throat all that you do as her man let those be surprises that she earns and finds out about over time while she shows if thats the type of treatment she deserves!
2006-07-09 09:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Andy29Pandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT give up! I think youre perfect! Tons of ladies love that... you just haven't found the right one yet! I wish there were more guys like you!
2006-07-09 09:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude....you sound like a great guy...i like good, honest men because you dont have to worry about them leaving you over something petty (most of the time) but any girl that dosent want to date you once they meet you (or at least be your friend) isnt worth your time....
2006-07-09 09:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww. cheer up. do u look good? maybe thats the problem.. no offense. i would take the good, honest man rather than anything else. sure, bad guys are fun, but they don't last long, and good honest men can be fun too. just keep doing wat ur doin, and look for girls that are lookin for ur type. dont let other people step all over you. maybe that's wat ur frends are trying to say to u wen they mean try the bad guy look.
2006-07-09 09:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by MyMuNcHkiNzPLz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey!i am a guy.and i was wondering myself also.what is happening?women decode bad boys as strong guys and good guys as weak.thats what i believe.so be good guy but never suck ladys.dont try to "buy" them.by telling a woman that she is beautifull,u love her u support her and bla bla bla,she loses her interest.be a bad boy and she will love you
2006-07-09 09:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by seveneight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋