I broke up with my ex girlfriend because I thought she was cheating on me with her guy friend. But, I wasnt sure had evidence with not enough proof. I tested her but she passed.. the times that i had a chance to. I texted her on her cell that i love her and miss her. but she never took the time to even talk to me it seem like she was ignoring me. now she txted me but i dont know if i should reply or ignore her? Now I"m ignoring her... should i say what i exactly what i feel that i never wannt to talk to her again and so on.. or should i jsut be her friend.. i cant cause i still like her.. she dont know that but i dont know if i should tell her that... any tips?
plz help thank u
2006-07-09 09:05:56 · 26 answers · asked by Jon A 10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't talk to her
2006-07-09 09:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a huge mistake breaking up with her over something for which you had no proof. You made a big mistake thinking you had the right to test her. She may not want to go back with someone who she feels doesn't trust her and will always be testing her. That's another form of trying to control and possess her. You're going about all of this in a very immature way. What you owe her is an apology whether she goes back to you or not.
I would say, forget relationships until you know more about how to act in one. You learned a lesson. Don't make the same mistake twice.
2006-07-09 09:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if u had any inclanations that she may have been cheating . she probably was. even tho you still have feelings for her and want her back you are still gonna have trust issues. now when u was texting her and she kept ignoring u, she was probably with some other guy. now he is gone she wanna get back in touch wit u. so what i would do is.... tell her how u feel but that u dont or wont trust her and then tell her to go straight to hell , do not pass go and do not collect 200.00.!!!
2006-07-09 09:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by jbanks332002x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk with her..... not in a text. Invite her to dinner and resolve things. You, yourself, said you didn't have proof.... and you will never be at rest knowing that you judged her with no proof. Also, you have no idea why she didn't take the time to talk with you and you say she "seem like she was ignoring me"..... exactly..... you have no proof of anything. You are wrongfully judging her. You should be thinking positive thoughts of her, not negative ones. Besides, good relationships build slowly and often involve forgiveness. If you love her you will forgive her.
2006-07-09 09:11:39 · answer #4 · answered by ofthehighest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like a dude. Go ahead and just let it go. U made a mistake by dumping her without being 100% sure. She'll move on and get with someone who trusts her instead of making assssumptions like u did. Next time around look b4 u leap. Good luck :)
2006-07-09 09:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....if i was yur gf in this situation and u dumped me because u thought i was with another guy i would be pissed. But i would love to hear from u telling me u are sorry and that u were wrongand that u missed me! And i would forgive u and get back together with u. But i am not her and i dont know how she is. But i think u definetly DO NOT ignore her, u are the one who dumped her...remember?! Definetly tell her that u still love her and miss her and that u wanna get back together!!! DO NOT IGNORE HER!!
2006-07-09 09:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just avoid her and find a girl who you can trust and deserve. I talk to my ex but only by email.Once I find a new boyfriend I will force myself to avoid my ex even through email. There is no harm in emailing but don't try to meet her or call her. Cause that brings back stuff you don't want to deal with. So just email her or text her but strictly that til you find a new girl.
2006-07-09 09:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun that is up to you. If you still want to be her friend an still have these feelings for her that you still want to tallk with her then go for it. Thats not wrong for wanting to talk to her cuz your only human. you sound like a great person.And if she ignors you send one last letter letting her no you dont want to waist eitherof your guys time.go on and meet new ones.u were sweet 4 tryin hun!
2006-07-09 09:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by cherie n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on man. before you break up wit her you should tell what her or your problem to break up. You didn't`t tell her. So take the chance to meet her and ask her, what really bother you. Then you`ll find out.
I think you should talk to her and see whether things go OK or not.
Good Luck
2006-07-09 09:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by 123456 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you still have feelings for her but don't want to be with her then I would say not to talk to her because the old feelings will come back and you will end up trying to crawl back to her and it won't work out, you will be just wasting your time, so no I wouldn't talk to her for awhile until you know that those feelings are gone COMPLETELY.
2006-07-09 09:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by j_elmo28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when you get a gut feeling that someone is being unfaithfully you're right. unless your the jealous type then it's just jealousy. she didn't respond before and i bet she has lost what she did have going on, and is now trying to fall back on you. move on and don't bother or you may just get hurt again. don't even tell her why. just move on.
2006-07-09 09:10:08 · answer #11 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋