If I am pinned down/restrained by someone much stronger than me, how can I escape?

Question

I am a girly, and i'm not very strong. If I am pinned down by someone to a wall or floor, with them holding my wrists or hands down and their body weight holding me in place, are there any methods or techniques that can be used to escape? How can I restain someone stronger than me? Thanks for any help you can give :o)

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Answer 1

A good head butt to the nose will work, but if your wrists are restrained by his hands, try breaking free through the thumb and forefinger opening. Although depending on if he is facing you, and holding your wrists, he is now in the perfect position for a swift and powerful kick to the family jewels. Another move is to try to grab your opponents baby finger, and bend it. He is guaranteed to follow you wherever, because no matter how big or strong they are, no one wants that small and vulnerable bone broken. Take Tae Kwon Do like I did. You will learn the 10 steps of sparring and more.
You can learn how to flip and restrain someone stronger than you, and how to disarm an opponent. Although I do love the kicks too.

Answer 2

First I'd suggest taking some basic self defense classes. Doesn't need to be kickboxing, tae kwon do, anything specific. Those are all disciplines that take time to learn. Any type of self defense or fighting technique is useless if you don't practice it.

As always, the best defense is a good offense. To keep from getting in that vulnerable position, concentrate on the vitals- eyes, ears, nose, throat. Put your fingers together and keep them rigid, kinda like an arrowhead. Jabbing them in the throat or eyes will make anyone keep their distance. Use the heel of your palm to crush their nose, and slightly cupped hands to slap their ears.

The "knee to the jewels" or breaking a finger might be the last thing you want to try...if you're up against someone trained for pain you'll just trigger extra adrenaline. Like someone already said, twist the thin part of your wrist toward where the thumb and forefinger meet and pull away to break the grip. Once you get a free hand, go back to the vitals.

PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE!

Answer 3

I own TSRemas - a Close Quarters Combat School in Dallas, TX.

Gender, size, strength, or weight are neglible in the presence of skill.

For most women, these 2 scenarios are the most feared positions in which one could face an encounter. But cool minds will almost always prevail...

For instance...If you are on the ground with your arms pinned at the wrist, then your attacker is using all of his available weapons against you. He is resting on his legs (so he can't kick you) and he is pinning your arms with his hands (so he can't hit you). What's he going to do? Talk you to death? The truth is that this attack is an attack of psychological warfare and an act of submission.

Same thing for the wall - If someone is dumb enough to pin you to the wall with both hands, then he deserves to have you introduce Mr. Knee to Mr. Groin...but that again, really isn't the point. His point is intimidation and his point is submission.

I won't tell you how to escape this scenario by email - that'd be stupid for any instructor...this is something that you should teach face to face - go find a competent Martial Arts instructor and pose your question to him/her and watch them light up in delight and glee as they explain the foolhardy nature of your attacker...and the plethura of damage you can inflict in the name of self defense...

I will tell you though that human predators are just like other predators. This story probably sums it up best...

2 hunters are in the woods when a bear attacks. Knowing that bears climb trees they decide to run for it. 1 turns to the other and says "How fast can bears run?" to which the other replies: "I don't know, but all I have to do is run faster than you!"

This is to say - Predators seek those who they perceive as weak. Thus - you don't have to be the strongest person in a group - just not the weakest...

Be aware of your surroundings. Be alert at all times. Stay with groups when possible. Ask for an escort if you will be walking alone from a store to your car at nite. Take a short 2 hour self defense course with a competent instructor....because the best self defense is not to be there when it happens....

Answer 4

forget all that, if the guy is holding u down you should relax and let him think you have quit fighting, now if he is going to do something horrible like rape, or lesser than that steal your purse, he has to let go to grab the purse, or again, the worse, and so , if you're relaxed he is going to think its ok, he lets go , first think you do is push your thumb as far into his eye socket as possible, its very vulnerable , then he will eather back off or shift weight, opening him for a kick to the groin, or a strike to the throat, once he is incompacitated, run, and dont stop, there are a lot of mean guys out there, but, everyone has soft spots, depending on how dirty you want to be to win, you can always win. and without training, the only way a person that is grossly undermatched can restrain is by killing them, attack quick, and get out.

Answer 5

Your best bet is prevention. Learn a martial art which specializes in preventing people from grabbing you. I would suggest studying tai chi chuan, with an instructor who understand chin na (joint locks). Such techniques are very useful for smaller people who are defending themselves against even much larger opponents.

Unfortunately, this is a long term solution. In the meantime, try to stay out of situations where you might be cornered alone with someone you don't know or trust.

Answer 6

It all depends on WHY he is holding you down. If he just wants you to say "I'm sorry", or "OK, I'll go out with you. or something like that, then it's solved by saying it and "yes", in a nice, sweet voice. If he just wants the bag of M&Ms you stuffed in your back pocket, then give them up. If he just wanted to prove to you that he was stronger than you, then just say "you are sooooo strong....stronger than I could ever, ever be". But if he is holding you down RIGHT NOW for some mysterious or (worse yet) evil reason, then - sorry - it is probably too late for you to get out of this one except by ingenius "diplomacy".

So here is what I suggest. Since he obviously is not holding you down right now at this very moment (otherwise you would not be able to type this question to us), start a self defense class immediately, and at the same time start working out so you never again have to describe yourself as a "not very strong" girl. If you can stand it, also add KungFu to your life. Then, in a few months you can just wait, like a spider for a fly, for him to come by, and when he makes his move, you can whip his a_ _, and send him on his way, feeble, disgraced, crying, and conquered! (hehe).....OH JOY!!

Answer 7

If someone wants to attack you, eye gougeing and bending fingers back aren't going to stop them. Only make them madder.

Eby out from under them if they have their weight on you. If they're holding you hands or wrists, then you have their hands and wrists also. Bridge your hips if you're on the ground to break up their base. BJJ classes are excellent to take for self defense. Every class you start with someone in your guard (between your legs) and have to escape or have to escape with someone on mount (on your chest).

Whatever the situation, get your body moving and make theirs unsteady. Don't make anything easy for them.

Answer 8

well try bending his wrist back, then only if you really feel in danger give him a good hard chop in the throat. OK then pin him by twisting his arm to get him down then grabbing his wrist and pushing on his elbow which will break his arm if his arm is strait.

Answer 9

You have to use ALL of your body to get out of their hold. There is even some katas for this in To-Shin Do, a modernized version of ninjutsu. For more info go to http://www.skhquest.com

Answer 10

tough question. Without listening to answers that may or may not work for you, I suggest taking a self defense class.