50year old requires advice?

Question

Need some feedback if anyone has an opinion. I am 50 yrs of age and have been on my own for a few years now,I have brought up my 17 yr old son who still lives with me. After years of not really being interested in meeting a partner about 9 months ago i met a woman whilst i was out of town working, we get along really well but only manage to see her once every two weeks, she has a five year old son and i had hoped i had done my fathering, i think i love her. We are going on holiday together in a couple of weeks and i get the feeling she wants us to live together, it would mean me selling up and finding new work moving 200 miles away, this i feel is a major risk and i am not sure what to do, any advice would be good

Answer 1

i am in a similar position, ive met and fell in love with somebody who stays a couple of hours drive away from me, he works offshore and we see each other every time he is home. it keeps the relationship fresh and we do want to get married and stay togethwer but we both agreed to give it time to see how we feel about each other before we make any radical decisions. i have a 19 yr old daughter and she is delighted that i am seeing someone,but keep in mind the kids sakes as well.good luck and enjoy the holiday first and then take your time from there. 9 months is long but not long enough to prove to each other there is a commitment. just enjoy each other.

Answer 2

I agree it sounds like a pretty big risk. If it doesn't work out then you and your son are pretty much in a bad situation. Love is worth the risk, but you say you *think* you love her. She may be the one, but I would find out for sure until their is no doubt in your heart, and no doubt that the feeling is mutual. Moving in with a woman, especially if the two of you have children, is a big matter. If you are willing to move in with her, you should be willing to marry her.

So I would hold off on any big moves until you're completely confident that the relationship can been fully defined. Also, make sure your son and his well-being are a primary part of that defining process.

Good luck with it!

Answer 3

You seem like a nice gentleman, but you've already lived the fathering life... doesn't seem like you want a step child.. Your age is nothing but a number in the decision, how do you feel about another marriage possibly with a stepson.. if you aren't ready for that then just talk it over with your mate, let her know what you have shared with us... I'm sure once you discuss things she will have a clear picture of you and what you want

Answer 4

take your time - if it really is love then remember that love is patient and will only improve with time. This is so major Id spend at least another yr dating - dont give up your life till u feel totally sure and you can,t walt to move.

Answer 5

Why dont you sit down with this woman and discuss the situation with her,i am sure she would respect you more for being honest about your feelings and thoughts...There is also the children involved to consider aswell....Good luck and best wishes

Answer 6

If you have doubts then you should say no.Becoming a step parent to a young child takes 110% committment,is that what you want?There are not two of you in this relationship.Think hard please,remember the child.

Answer 7

mm take it shes a fair bit younger, be easier for her to move, see how it goes on holiday. are both the kids going with you, if so that will prob sort things out. good luck.
if it dont work out give me call. i'm free

Answer 8

Well sir all i'd advice you is to make a wise decision before making any decision no one else can make that decision for you but you are the only one

Answer 9

follow your insticnt - if it doesnt feel right dont rush anything - could you rent your house if you moved so if it didnt work you would have somewhere to return