my guy left me for 4 month and i was always talking with his friend and send him intim photos. But i didn`t make sex with him or even meet. Is it unfaithfulness and what can i do my guy to forgive me??
2006-07-09 07:42:57 · 20 answers · asked by MissRussia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes..that's being unfaithful. Anytime you are doing something that you know your partner will not agree with, is being unfaithful. The only thing you can do to get your guy back is to tell him that you are truly sorry, and that it was a honest mistake.
2006-07-09 07:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by mrshunter_2002 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfaithfulness, or infidelity, means cheating on the person to whom you're attached romantically. While I would question the wisdom of sending intimate photos to your ex's friend, the fact is that your boyfriend left you. You were no longer attached. Therefore, no infidelity was committed and there's no need for your ex to forgive you. He had no hold on you at the time.
What you do with this information is up to you. Is it necessary to tell your ex what you did? I don't think so. You don't owe him any explanations regarding your behavior when you were separated. However, if you feel you can't be in a relationship with him without clearing the air and confessing your indiscretion, then talk with him about it. But tread carefully; he's likely to not take the information very well, especially since it involved a friend of his. He may not be able to trust you.
But this raises a question for me: Can you trust HIM? Why are you wanting to get back together with someone who dumped you for 4 months? Is he coming back to you repentant, knowing he made a mistake? Or is he coming back to you because you're his fall-back girl? It's an important question to ask yourself.
If it's the former, then you may stand a chance at reconciliation. But if it's the latter, then kick that boy to the curb! Respect yourself enough to not stand or settle for that sort of behavior. You're worth more than that.
2006-07-09 07:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) If he deserted you for no reason then it is his mistake,
has he had to protect you.
2) It's your mistake for flirting with someone that he knows very well because your image has degraded among his friend of circle, and when ever or where ever you will be alone or along with your guy, these group of people will just wait for there chance or movement to approach you for sex.
3)if you mention the story to your guy and he might forgive you, but there will always be something in his mind about you and him.
conclusion - leave the guy who left you 4 months back and say your story about intim and why you did this
2006-07-09 07:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by saleem k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beg, plead. Tell him what an idiot you were. Say you were trying to make him jealous to see if he still cared. Explain how much you love him and why forgiving you will benefit you both. Some guys cannot get over even the hint of cheating, so don't be surprised if he does not get back with you. If he cannot forgive, move on and don't look back. There are other men out there.
2006-07-09 07:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by tool84u_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, he left you, remember? Are you saying he expected you to sit in some hole and pine for him the rest of your life? Now he's back, and should he be shocked that you moved on?
And what about his poor friend?
I had this same stuff happen to me once; I started hanging with this girl soon after she got dropped by this guy, and first we were friends but then she started acting interested, and just when I thought we might be moving to something deeper, he decides he's going to come back, and guess who's left dangling in the wind.
If you really want to do the right thing, tell him he left you, and you've moved on, whether or not you're interested in this other guy or not. Show yourself some self respect, and spare this other guy some real pain.
2006-07-09 07:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unfaithful if you weren't in a relationship at the time. He doesn't have any right to judge you when you weren't together, but it is probably difficult for him since it was a friend of his that you did this with. It would be hard on you if he did that with one of your friends after you two broke up, wouldn't it?
2006-07-09 07:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he left you for 4 months, then you weren't WITH him, were you? so why are you concerned about upsetting him? He wasn't even in your life then. But I will tell you something.. think twice before you lower yourself to sending ANYONE that sort of photo.. it is something tangible that can jump up and bite you in the *** later if things go wrong. Think about what you want people to think about you as a person, then act accordingly.
2006-07-09 07:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your guy left you for 4months; you don't have to do anything to have him forgive you. you just simply moved on and it wasn't a crime, since he was the oen to leave you!
2006-07-09 07:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not sending his buddie any more photos would be a good start.
Is he mad you sent them?
2006-07-09 07:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communicate directly to your partner. don't involve anybody else even a friend. no ego, no distance, no nothing. if you love, then only love.
2006-07-09 07:51:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋