How fast is too fast?

Question

I met this girl and we exchanged numbers. We talked like one time before I asked her top go out. We went to the movies, watched fire works and went to the lake.
One of the best dates I’ve ever had. We clicked so well we saw each other everyday for that next week. I even went to her job and left her flowers.
We talked and decided that we were moving to fast and we better slow it down.
So since then we have gone out once and we haven’t talked as much. So with that said how fast is too fast to jump into a relationship? Even though its clear that you both enjoy each others company

Answer 1

Hi honey. It sounds like you and this gal had a really great time! But I totally agree, that what happened during that week sounds a little too fast. Its so normal to get that excited for a new relationship, especially when it seems that you totally click. I will tell you why its so fast..
Did you ever hear of that saying waiting makes the heart grow fonder? Well as stupid as that may sound to some people, its very true. I have to say, what you described of how you both reacted in the beginning is almost destined to crash and burn. I find when you see each other every single day in a relationship, it gets old. Even though I would love to see my boyfriend every single day of the week, we both understand that it is best not to. Sometimes you get sick of each other, and you need to have that time to do your own things, own hobbies etc. If you start that fast right away in the very first week, guaranteed it will get old very quick.
There are no set rules for dating. However, the first week really should be for getting to know one another. I think in the beginning you really should only see her once a week. You need to have that excitement and anticipation of seeing one another. You need to feel like you have missed this person the whole week. Believe me, its not going to last that long, the fun and excitement if you are seeing each other every single day, especially in the first week.
The other thing is too, that it sounds like you are really ready for a relationship, which I think is awesome. It doesn't sound like you are out for just sex or anything like that...But however, moving as fast as you were sounds like it was ready to lead to that very quick. And you don't seem like you want a relationship just based on sex right? I find that when you do that right away, it just becomes the basis of the relationship....When your angry you have sex, when you are bored you have sex, when you are sad you have sex....
I just think really it was good you guys recognized that you were moving too fast. I think that is mature on both your parts and you should commend yourselves for that. Try meeting up for dinner one night after work or something, and then maybe one weekend day either Fri or Saturday night make that official date night. But in the beginning try not to make it more than twice a week. Then when you feel comfortable it will progress at it's own time. Just play it by ear.
Just have a healthy balance of girls work and your own friends. Its good that both of you seem to have your own stuff and interests going on. Take your time and enjoy things. Just be spontaneous. Mabe she thought it was a little scary that you were so interested that first week. To me, I might be a little scared that you were a stalker....I don't think you are, I am just trying to give you a woman's insight to this. Try and get to know each other, maybe only see each other a couple of times a week in the beginning. Before you know it, things will have progressed and maybe you will get more serious. Don't worry about the time frame, just try and play it by ear, and try and judge to see how this lovely lady feels...
Good luck with everything. I have a feeling this is going to work out for you in the way you hope! I think this is going to be one lucky gal because you are totally romantic!!

Answer 2

How fast you move in a relationship is totally up to the two of you. Some people hit it off right away, and you shouldn't feel pressured to take things at a slower pace if being together feels right to both of you. Try speeding things up a bit (after talking to your girl about it, of course) and see where things go. As long as you're both enjoying activities outside your new relationship and have time for people and things besides each other, then go for it. That said, if she feels more comfortable taking things at a slower pace, then you'll have to respect that. She might just need some time to get used to having you in her life. If that's the case, then be sure to let her know you're thinking about her every so often when you're not together. A short note or phone call to check in and say hi is sometimes just what a girl needs to brighten her day and remind her how great you are.

Answer 3

Only the both of you can gauge if you are moving too fast. If you enjoy eachother's company and like going out - then go out and get to know eachother better. Maybe not see eachother every single day, but there is no reason why you shouldn't talk on the phone or on the net and go out multiple times a week. If you both click and you both like eachother then go for it - don't not see eachother because you think that seeing eachother too frequently isn't good.

Answer 4

I don't think there is such a thing as too fast if you both are feeling comfortable with the progression. I mean getting married for your second date may be too fast! I think, though, taking time is nice because you get to really know the person and get comfortable around them without getting bored. Just make sure that you both want the same things and move at whatever pace you both feel comfortable.

P.S. The flower thing... SO CUTE!

Answer 5

it's all in the chemistry. i understand you are infatuated, which is a good sign of a fun relationship. you might want to see each other every other day, or speak on the phone every day insted of seeing each other so often. who decided you are moving too fast? you or your partner?who initiated this conversation? as long as you're not running down the aisle or the delivery room, have fun with it.

Answer 6

When it feels right its good, if it feels rushed slow down and enjoy each others company.

Answer 7

Its your relationship. You should know what you are going in for. isnt it? are u thinking of going to bed with her? then thats her decision now. Y ask such a personal question to strangers? And dont sin as premarital sex and extra marital affair is a sin in all relegions.

Answer 8

I think you guys were fine it wasn't like you were sleeping with each. You guys were dating and enjoying each other how else do you get to know each other.

Answer 9

If you are forgetting your friends and family you are moving too fast.

Answer 10

it's never too fast to love or feel good with somebody who u have a connection with,