How do you disipline a 6 year old without being too hard on her?

Question

Tried the whole cornor thing and also grounding her. Doesn't seem to work.....

Answer 1

I am assuming here that your child knows your rules. Some rules one has to make up as each day goes by, yet I am sure that you have certain rules like "no crossing the street without an adult" and "no disrespect or talking back to Mom or Dad or other adults." You might want to take time to write down the rules and put them on the refrigerator. Even if your child can't read, you can read them to her and she and you can be reminded that these are the "rules of the house." Ideally, children should learn very early that the behavior choices they make have consequences.

I think it is important that the discipline match the bad behavior. For example, the punishment consequence for being disobedient--say, not picking up her toys after you asked her to, should be less severe than crossing the street without holding your hand. (We only spanked our children when their behavior endangered their lives--like going into the street without our permission)

Whenever possible, be sure to communicate the consequence before she does the bad thing--and then follow through with it. Often it is the following through that is the hardest thing for parents to stick with! I really think the consequences part is harder on the parent than it is on the child!

If you are having discipline problems all the time you might ask yourself about how much interaction you are having with her? From my own experience, my young children tended to misbehave when I was pre-occupied over a span of time and not having happy interactions --fun!--with them. Children pick up feelings that you are feeling, so if there is a problem or concern bothering you, and you are pre-occupied a lot, it can help to explain to your child in an easy-to-understand way--but don't go into details-- that you have a problem that you are thinking about a lot. Let her know how she can help you. I found that having dialogues with my children about things going on around us and things happening in my life and theirs helped in the discipline department.

Most important, praise, praise, praise for good behavior! Six year olds can accept responsibilities for small chores and caring for pets. Make absolutely sure that you are praising her for the help she is doing for you and the good things she is doing for others. From time-to-time give her a reward for the good things she is doing --but do not go overboard or make this a "regular" thing so that she thinks that you "owe" her. It could be a visit to a favorite place, or making her favorite food for lunch. Something that will convey that you appreciate her good qualities and her good behavior.

There is a passage in the Bible that says "swift discipline is a great kindness." This is true--but the discipline must be appropriate and done with love. If you continue to have trouble, confer with your pastor. Many churches have counselors for parents. A person who is an early childhood specialist or a social worker with experience with young children can help. Or talk with an experienced mom in your circle who has grown kids who have turned out well. Sometimes kids go through phases and sometimes there are bigger issues to deal with. If there are issues, the earlier these are identified and addressed, the happier your child and you will be.

Most likely this is one of those phases. Good luck!

Answer 2

I saw this on Dr. Phil, this does not envolve any physical dissipline at all.
Let her know that bad behaivoir will not be accepted and if she continues her things will be taken away.
Litterally take away her stuff. All the toys in her room, the tv, the vcr, dvd player the video games phone...all that stuff. Take it out and lock it up. After the initial tantrum she'll come to realize that if she behaives like mommy wants, she'll get her stuff back. But don't give it back to her all at one time. Do it to where if she goes 5-7 straight days with good behavior she can have 1 item that was put away back. Leave the big stuff like dvd's, tv and video games and computers for last.
Best of luck.

Answer 3

This is what I have done in the past with my children and I don't spank. We sat down on night and got a brown paper bag decorated it, & then we discussed different punishments to put in the bag. ex: on a piece of paper write out different types of punishments. Take away something, no tv for a day, not playing with a certain toy, grounded for a day or grounded until futhur notice things like that. we folded them in half and put them into the bag and when they did something wrong then they would go to the bag and pick out ( without looking) their own punishment. and then they put it back in the bag. So they have a choice at what their punishment will be. Weather it be taking their favorite toy to time out, it gives them a sense of haveing control over their own life.

Answer 4

When you figure it out let me know. My daughter is 6 and I have tried everything, nothing works. It's gotten to the point even taking away tv time, doesn't work. If I take one thing away she finds something else to do. I have cleaned her room out, and it doesn't effect her at all.

I have learned that ignoring her works the best for me. If she wants me to listen to her, she has to listen to me first. It doesn't always work, but it does for me about 85% of the time.

Keep in mind each child is different, and some of them just don't care at this age.

Answer 5

I have tried the corner thing as well it doesn't woek yes I understand my son is 5 going on 6... what I do is take her favorite things away from her...Yes it is going to be hard on you too but, for her to understand the cosiquensis thats what you have to do...it works for my son - take her FAVORITE thing away and when she has calmed down then tell her that Mommy had to take this away because.... AND then ask her if she knows why you took it from her....HONEY it works and at least you don't have to dicsipline any other way... I wouldn't have it any other way... GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

you pick to sit down down and communicate including her. bear in mind she is on the mushy age of 6, so she will change her procedures before she's previous adequate to truly do herself damage. locate out why she keeps to act out. Is it perchance by using new guy? perchance she is scared, or she is purely in a better moderen surroundings (having a father parent) and he or she doesn't understand a thanks to reply. As for punishment, you should eliminate a toy or sport till she will tutor that she will act like a astounding little female. keep doing this to her fashionable issues till she will be in a position to lose interest with performing out and with somewhat of success be astounding. If this does no longer artwork, then i'd propose in search of specialist suggestion from kin counseling and performance all of your household operating together to have a delightful existence. i'm hoping this facilitates, and best of success to you!

Answer 7

Try taking away some of the things she likes or restricting other things she can/can't do(no TV, no sweets etc.).
Most important is to stick with it and be consistent.

Answer 8

Spank her. It is completely okay to spank a child. You just have to know how much force you have. Don't leave welts. I spank even my 2 year old. It is necessary sometimes.

Answer 9

welll......i hav a sis too....bt i dont think groundin or doin anythin cud work....coz it cn make her more stubborn...n then she'll not listen to u anymore....soo try not to talk to her ignore...maybe den she'll feel tht she has to chnge or understand her...maybe sum prob is troublin her....hope it wud work bt remember dont be too hard...!

Answer 10

Take EVERYTHING away from her.
Until the behavior is cured