one of my good friends, who moved though, told me two weeks ago he loves me and always has [he moved a month ago] and he gets jealous when i talk about my boyfriend. he still likes me and he gives me pictures like "thinking about you" and away messages with "especially if your .... <3" with my name. he really likes me and i feel bad. infact i used to lke him when he lived here, but that was like three months ago. and i just dont know how to tell him because its starting to become ackward between us. help =[
2006-07-09 07:14:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i really love my boyfriend a lot. and also, the guy is more of a guy you could crush on but not go out with. like i would never go out with him for some reason, but i did like him for like.. a week maybe lol
2006-07-09 07:20:55 · update #1
one more thing.
he tells me im beautiful a lot and he IMs me sooo much and his away messages have me in them and he tells me i changed his life forever anddddddd he thought i couldve been "the one". yeah that ones kinda weird cause im only thirteen.
and i dont want to blow this guy off cause hes sensitive and he is a GOOD FRIEND.
2006-07-09 07:23:37 · update #2
I would say that I just want to be friends! I dont mean to hurt your feelings! I would say that! I always said that and then it works for me! There are guys who say that they love me and then I say i just want to be friends and then they and I are friends and talking so! try that! Good luck!
2006-07-09 07:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's starting to creep you out, that he lives somewhere else and move on. You're still right where you are, which is with another guy. If he were living next door to you you'd be just as unavailable. Tell him it's not personal, but that's just the way it is, and the sooner he realizes it the happier he'll be.
Drop him like a hot potato now. After his intial shock and anger, once he has gotten past the hurt and found somebody else, if he's well adjusted and not in reality a stalker-maniac, he'll see one day that what you did was for the best.
2006-07-09 07:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey that 's tough u r in love a guy @ the same time u dnt wana lose ur friendship so tell me do u really love ur guy, hw deep is that relationship n do u still like /love ur frnd afterall even u gona start a relationship with ya frnd there would b d distance barrier u no wot im sayin so after sortin the question u should tell ya frnd that u r 2 late even riskin ur friendship coz this could only lead 2 a triangle
2006-07-09 08:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_angle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply remind him that it was just a B/F relationship..not engaged or marriage...and you can't have that with him living elsewhere. You can be a friend..but not b/f. You now see someone else locally on a regular basis.
It's important to keep honest about b/f - g/f relationships. They are the means by which we learn about relationships and interacting with the opposite sex. They are NOT lifetime commitments. It may hurt a little, but no promises or commitments were broken. Got to keep these things in perspective.
2006-07-09 07:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this exact thing happen to me! I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 months when my good guy friend told me that he loved me. It is really hard and I understand what you are going through. What I did, was tell him that I was with my boyfriend and that I wasn't going to change that. If you want to keep being with your boyfriend, then you have to make sure your friend knows that so you will be fair to him. You have to be honest with him. My friend understood and now I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. It will work out if he wants it to. I hope this helps some and I hope things work out for you!
2006-07-09 07:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by mattsbaby125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with how you word things, but you have to at least emply your feelings about this difficult situation. That way the other person can back off without being directly embarrassed or ruining the relationship.
2006-07-09 09:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he needs to stop! you like him as a friend and a friend only! and if you keep this up I will stop all contacts because you are making me feel awkward! I have a boyfriend you know this so quit the the pic's and other stuff your sending me I will let my boyfriend know if you do not stop! (that is if you have not told him ) let someone know just in case he gets psycho
2006-07-09 07:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by MSG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you liked him before and he liked you this should be a no brainer. people spend most of their lives looking for the right one and usually the right one has been right under their noses. How long have you and the bf been going out? Not to long from the sounds of it. Give the friend a chance.
2006-07-09 07:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by amandajean1286 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to tell him the plain simple truth...i have a boyfriend i don't like you and i just want to be friends with you and thats it...if he stops talking to you a lot he probably feels unconfortable with you for a little while...but if he knows the truth then he'll get over it some day! Just tell the truth......
2006-07-09 07:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by kenzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are way to young to be in a serious relationship anyway, trust me. Well take it slow anyway. You tell your friend that you just want to be friends and nothing else. If he can;t respect you for that then he is not really your friend,is he?
2006-07-09 09:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Buh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋