Okay, i did a question like this, but people stopped answering and left me confused still. She is a year older then me, we are the best of friends, but since were so close she thinks of us as brother and sister which doesn't help if i like her as more than just a friend. I care for her extremely and would NEVER want to hurt her feelings, but it's getting annoying having to hide the fact that i love her, as more than just a friend. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
2006-07-09 06:55:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must consider the fact that you idealize what she represents to you and not actually be in love with her. Ask yourself this...if a relationship with her is really what you want, does she feel the same or is it doomed from the start. Ask her about her feelings about you. Many people are just too afraid to face their own feelings in a truly logical manner. You must not be afraid to voice your opinion or you'll always have that deep hole in your soul to be filled. Then what would you do??? You would probably get more depressed and seal yourself up from the outside world...take a chance, if she's truly a friend and is understanding then she will answer you honestly and hold nothing against you...
2006-07-09 07:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by lifeinquestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to try and hide the fact you love her.
Take the time and sit down with her, either in a social setting (bars, cafes), or a personal setting ( home, parents ) and politely tell her what you are feeling. Make sure you stress that you can't hold it in anymore. Mention that you will still be her friend and care for her as much as you can even if she doesn't decide it's the best idea. Most times people are confused because they do not want to lose this person as their friend. With that in mind after you are finished talking with her, if her decision is no, then lighten up the mood and forget that you even mentioned it. Don't dwell on it. Maybe take her out somewhere fun and try to forget the conversation because it is now irrelevant.
Hope this helps
matt
2006-07-09 07:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by MastaP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your grandmother your minister? Is she an expert on the bible? It is absurd for her to tell you that you would be granted a one-way ticket to hell. That said, there are a lot of factors to consider. If your nana disapproves of the relationship and plans on cutting you out of her life, it might not be worth it. The relationship might not work, but your nana will be there with you until she dies. Working at her market is not your only future - it might be a good option for you now, but there are certainly other things you could do. Is it worth it to risk alienating your family (whether or not your nana is morally right in their position on this relationship?) In addition to the question of your nana, think about your future with Taylor, possible children, and how you would raise them. I'm guessing if you're committed to Christianity, you'll likely want to raise your children in your church. Taylor might have different ideas. Though there are certainly relationships that work with two people on very different ends of ideological spectrums, this might be one that you want to think about for a long time before you begin anything. Good luck.
2016-03-26 22:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share your feelings with your best friend by asking a simple question, "I know someone who has fallen in love with a best friend? What would you recommend to a friend in this situation?
You will not lose a friend with this question. But on the other hand, friendship is always a risky thing because there are two of you and things change normally.
2006-07-09 07:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going places together, get fresh with her, act like you dating her, tell her you want a relationship with her, be honest, women have ways of knowing how you feel with out telling, she probley wants the same thing as you do, women want the man to be a man and not a wuss, what I'm saying is step up to the plate and take a swing. If you don't some man will get her right in front of you and you will live the rest of your life regretting it. Be a man, I'm telling you women will respect you better and you will be surprised.
2006-07-09 07:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by Josh S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should leave it as it is. You don't know the consequence of a "friendly relationship turn to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship" who knows, down the line you might be the one with the heart broken! She might take you in for a while just so she wont hurt your feelings and later tell you that is not working out. Then you'll have a not so friendly friendship.
p.s. if you really like her go for it but be "ready"!!!
2006-07-09 07:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by me801735 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are only two things to do either tell her and hope for the better. Or not tell her. I had a set of friends like that. They went out for a year then broke up. It didn't turn out well but that doen't mean it won't turn out well for you. You have to either take a leap of faith or not do anything. Think about this if you really love her do you want to hurt her?
2006-07-09 06:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by oogaooga12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what you do to go for her. 1 change up the tone of the conversations you have with her : meaning she talks about something and you reply with a sexual condensation, Like:: jane: this dress is nice John reply: yeah thats sexy on you. or jane: i was thinking about going to get somthing to eat. John reply: you feel like somehting Hot ( and wink at her)
she will start to get the hint. when the mood is right kiss her with a soft kiss and use the other hand to grab her boob. I bet you get the azz: the kiss boob move never fails i call it the "kissboob move" but theres a right way of going about it if you do it wrong you will be smacked. but lifes a risk hun!!!
2006-07-09 07:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really hard position for you. theres many ways telling her can go. if you tell her, she may have the same feelings back and be so happy. on the other hand, she may be weirded out and want her distance from you which can ruin your relationship. but if you two are best friends I say be completely honest with her, shes your best friend and should be understanding. i bet shes felt a connection between you guys before, too. and its commen for best friends to become more, my friends are going through that. for the second time.
and im guessing im around your age. but that doesnt really matter lol. [ im thirteen ] and many people go through this. infact my best friend right now is my ex but we dont act like it. he even told me he liked me a month ago [we went out in november] but it didnt matter to me and we continued to best friends.
good luck <3
2006-07-09 07:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To fall in love with your best friend is the best thing! I did the same thing once. My first wife (She died) was the one! We were married 21 years and waht can I say...It was scary, but it was wonderful! LET HER KNOW!!!! BE BOLD! GO FOR IT! It will take a lot of guts to throw the words out there, but do it man....YOU CAN'T GO WRONG WHEN YOU FOLLOW YOUR HEART!
2006-07-09 07:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋