Only latter to find out they was totaly wrong for you
2006-07-09 06:43:57 · 5 answers · asked by canuticklemepink 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually met my "perfect one" at the age of 39! I truly fell in love for the first time in my life and he made me believe he felt the same! We had so much in common and were so very happy! I could not believe how wonderful those feelings could be! It happened so fast, it was almost overwhelming! Within 2 months we were living together and had blended our families, even total strangers would comment on how great we were together! We bought a home together,a boat, a camper etc.! We planned our marriage and talked of growing old together. I truly believed we were meant for each other! That was 7 years ago. That last year things began to change and I guess he just stopped loving me! I did not want to see or believe it was happening! I tried so hard to not give up on us! I did not want to lose him! I don't know why his feelings changed, and I have had to accept that I never will! It has been 7 months since I have spoken or seen him. It's almost like it was a dream! I had no choice but to go on with my life, with a beating but broken heart! I am sure I will never love like that again! I feel like part of me has died and I don't even know the reason why! I can't believe how bad it hurts! Anyway, life goes on and some days are better than others! I'm a firm believer that what goes around comes around! I know I'm a good person and I deserve to be happy! I am single at 46 years old and beginning to know myself better than I ever have! Everything happens for a reason even if we don't understand why at the time! Thanks for your question, it has been great therapy for me to talk about my experience! At least I know what it feels like to have had that kind of love! Was it worth the pain? I'm not sure I'll ever know the answer to that!! Thanks again for listening!!
2006-07-09 08:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by LadyNitecat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I thought I found my perfect mate 4 years ago. We were both divorced with children. He was everything I thought a man should be. The past 6 months though, things have changed. He sees me less and is less thoughtful and giving. He says he loves me and calls me several times a day, but doesn't take the time to do things like he used to. He is beginning to take me for granted (and he even admits that!). I told him last night that I want all or nothing. It makes me sad that he has ruined a good thing by being selfish and that it took me so long to see it. It's scary to think that I could've married this man. It takes a long, long time to see everything about a person and to know if he or she is right for you. People put their best foot forward for a while and sooner or later you see the real thing. Sometimes that's ok, sometimes very disappointing. Good luck to you!
2006-07-09 06:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem with finding "perfection." None of us are perfect, therefore it has to be a misperception when we find it. What I found was someone who makes me laugh, that I can talk with until sunrise, and has common interests with mine. I can tolerate the things I get annoyed with (he's not much of a housekeeper) because he does so much more for me than that. Keep your eyes open because someone like that will be entering your life soon; you can bet on it.
2006-07-09 06:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all wonder around and for moments of time how ever brief or lasting we are able to make a big difference in a life with just a little love.
2006-07-09 07:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by jessica b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but now I think what I'm looking for is something else! Such is life :)
2006-07-09 06:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋