There's this guy that I like, would like to date &I told him so. But since he just got out of a bad relationship(about 3 weeks back)he said he's not ready to get into another one right now n needs some space and time. I said ok..i'd wait. After that I have been just a friend to him and been really nice and understanding with him. Today, I showed him some pics of my friends and he looked interested in 2 of them. I asked him if he would like me to find out if they are single (dont know why I said that).. he suddenly got really excited and said yes! and asked me to get their phone numbers too. Now I feel really bad. he says he's not ready to get into anything now and then he gets all excited and eager with these girls. The least he can do for me is say no to me and then ask me for my friends' details... right? Also, over the past few days, I've noticed he looks at me 4 longer time and his voice is sometimes softer when he talks to me. What's happening?? Please help.PS: I'm 25 n he's 30
2006-07-09 06:18:50 · 14 answers · asked by Orchid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Recently, he has been more free with me too.. like he touches me on my shoulder and back and once he grabbed my waist and tickled me (dont know if he was doing that playfully or was just looking for a way to touch me there). Sometimes he shares stuff about himself with me. Why is he doing all this to me(knowing my feelings for him), and then instantly getting interested in someone he doesnt even know? I've lost a bit of trust in him. What do you think about the whole situation?
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2006-07-09 06:19:14 · update #1
sounds like he may be looking for a couple of good-time girls before he gets into a relationship. maybe he likes you too much to go out with you right now because he's looking for a rebound.
2006-07-09 06:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a typical guy getting over a relationship. If he isn't in a relationship, he is free to look and inquire. Advice: if you want something to happen with him, you may still have to wait until he completely lets go of the past relationship, but you can start doing things to show that you want to be more than just friends. You can start by going someplace with him that would be, well, like a date and see what happens.
Maybe he doesn't really know what he wants right now... if he cared about the person he was in a relationship with, chances are, he is confused, hurt and at the same time, wanting someone to fill the role, but not wanting the pain of it also... good luck.
2006-07-09 06:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmmm, I've seen this happen before. I'm sorry love but I just seems that he's not intrested in anything with you. I gaurentee if he had either one of your friends #'s he'd be callin in a heart beat.
My advice, keep him as a buddy if you like but don't expect anything further. He's not going to go for it. Besides he's not being very open and honest with you and you deserve to be with someone that is.
I'm only a year older than you but i've seen this happen sooooo many times its redicules. Don't let this guy lead you on. If he thinks he can get some from you and your friend you better belive he'll try.
Hope this helps some love. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
2006-07-09 06:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 42-year old guy. My advice, just be up front with him. The more you sit in wonder about this, the harder it will be for you. So get past that and just tell him what you told us, and ask him where he stands with you.
Good Luck!
2006-07-09 06:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see? now thats what is called giving mixed signals by liking him then offering him pictures etc. Games that kids play. Maybe you should try to approach him more maturely. No offense intended but you asked for help.
2006-07-09 06:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 26...It sounds like he wants to have fun. Tell him you want to 'try something' and play with his cocknballs for awhile. Trust me. Anytime a girl thats cool does that....I want to see a lot more of her. and if you're a cool girl that puts out too. You're in!! Good luck!!
2006-07-09 06:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
32 yrs old and there are so many possible answers here I wont go into them all maybe he was testing you to see if you where the jelous type but most likely he still doesn't know truly what he wants give him time
2006-07-09 06:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by vicolstravnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 28, talk to him and ask him why hes interested in your friends. And let him know how you feel again and ask his thoughts about it.
2006-07-09 06:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by john l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm only 13 but I'm good at this.
You, him, and your 2 friends that he seem interested in go out foe a dinner but I prefer beach.
If he is always with them, he likes them, if he is always with you, he learned to love you...
Sound hard but its easy :]
try it out ;]
2006-07-09 06:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Maria_missing_you♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its too early to make any opinion about him.Just have more observations on him. try to find out whether he is really serious about u.
always remember if u love someone set him/her free if it comes back to u then he was urs & he is urs. but if he/she does not then it was never urs.
2006-07-09 06:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by sduhbls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋