I have been going through this bad break up with this girl who I really did care for. She has treated me like crap and I gave her chance after chance to change. She broke it off then I did the typical groveling and things like that which was stupid now haha but I guess you have to live through it to understand. I finally decided just to cut all ties with her and not give her any satisfaction of seeing me hurt. Now she keeps calling me saying sorry i hurt you all this kind of thing. I refuse to answer these calls and text messages. What would you guys do?
2006-07-09 06:15:53 · 27 answers · asked by yeeeehaw4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you guys are the greatest haha.
2006-07-09 07:21:42 · update #1
Stick to your guns. You tried, and it didn't work out, so it's time for you to move on.
Good luck and stay strong!
2006-07-09 06:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy but i am a girl and i can tell you that obviously she has came to her senses and found out that you were a really great guy and she lost you. By showing you dont care by not picking up the phone probably hurts her and maybe makes her think you have moved on. But you said before you gave her chance after chance what is it to say that you give her another chance and she doesnt do it again? I kno this becuz the guy i had been dating was doing the same thing to me. I dont kno the whole story to your relationship that you did have but i can tell you that maybe she isnt ther person for you and there is sum1 else out there that can treat you better then you have been..
2006-07-09 06:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore.
Sorry I know it's V hard but 2 allow her 2 keep hurting U seems 2 me like UR a glutton 4 punishment.
She'll only continue 2 treat U like this, if U let her.
Don't let her anymore.
There's plenty more fish in the Sea.
Or if U think she might ever change her ways & U've given her the wake-up call of a life time. Leave UR options open by telling her U need time.
Then it's up 2 U how long that Time will B.
2006-07-09 06:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be that you weren't being specific in what YOU wanted in the relationship. in other words, did you let her know that she was supposed to actively change if it meant a future with you? or did you just assume she would do so if she loved you as much as you loved her.
well, reconsider your stance in all this only becasue its unfair, and for the sake of a possible real chance at happiness. ..i would make sure the communication lines were always working. and that the two of you decided to end things based on really ending things because it really couldnt work out for the better... not because of EAGO or PRIDE. how sad.
2006-07-09 06:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by No1ELSEcomesCLOSE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but.....some people like to do what she is doing. They enjoy the control they have over another person. She calls & IMs you to see if she can get you to take her back, after which she'll just play the same old game. You have the right idea, get out now, and not play that game anymore. It'll do wonders for your self respect! I'm proud of you.
2006-07-09 06:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you're doing man!! If you have to, change your number and e-mail address if it gets annoying with her bothering you! But you are doing the right thing! Everyone here is right!! Don't let her see you hurt! Don't give her that satisfaction....you need to move on and find someone better who won't hurt you like she did, you know? Stay strong and ignore her! YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!!!!
2006-07-09 06:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy but .... i would deffinitly do the same thing that you are doing, refusing to talk to her. but you may want to tell her that you did care for her and that she hurt you bad, but you gave her numerous chances and she never took advantage of them and now its too late for her to come back into the "picture". now you just need to move on and have some fun, and find agirl that rly treats you well and doesnt take advantage of you. good luck.
2006-07-09 06:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Nichole C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same as you are doing. You did the right thing. It takes so much to change personality - she didn't do that just because you left her. She's calling you cause she cant handle the fact of being refused.
Good luck
2006-07-09 06:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a pro in emotional manipulation. Walk away, far away. Her hunger to manipulate you will never end. This type of woman NEEDS a very strong man to guide them. Of course, then they complain about "not being understood". This is not true, of course. The strong man understands them well and refuses them the opportunity to dominate with their games.
2006-07-09 06:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by aviator147 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feeling ultimately are more important than anything else. Take care of yourself and don't let her take you down a level. She wants you to be upset, and there's no reason you should be. In the end it is up to you to decide what to do, but i would stay as far away as possible.
Peace
Matt
2006-07-09 06:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by MastaP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just make her my f- buddy. sounds like she was playing some game. you where not. when you got frustrated and basically stopped the game, she lost and then wanted you more. people who play games get on my nerves. but it is typical that when you put your foot down on games like this they suddenly want to get back together or make things work. i would not recommend having someone who likes games as a girlfriends but they are perfect f-buddies. if you're looking for something serious then move on to someone else. game players only bring drama.
2006-07-09 06:18:10 · answer #11 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋